Friends are our second family after our real family!

The best buddies, the partners in crime, the emotional pillow to snuggle on in times of need and what not! However, only a few friendships survive the test of time and most wither away due to circumstances, personal priorities and unavoidable situations of life.

Can you trust them?

Yes you can, but for how long and how many of them, no one can say! That is why even in friendships, there should be a line drawn when it comes to sharing your intimate details. These details, especially of a sexual nature may initially sound fun or totally harmless, but in the long run they might turn to be your worst nightmares.

Let me explain, in detail, the pitfalls of sharing your sexual secrets with your friends:

1) You Become An Easy Gossip Target

Unless it is your very close friend or buddy, and sometimes not even them, sharing your sexual life is only going to become part of the gossip machine! Sex is something that is still taboo in our country and for good or bad, it is still one of the most talked about things even if in hush-hush tones. To avoid being the centre of attraction for what you did inside a closed room, it is better to leave it there only!

2) You Are Providing Object Of Fun Served On The Plate

Not all your friends are going to help you with suggestions about how to improve your sex-life or solve your sex-related issues, but for sure it is going to be a topic of immense interest for them. No wonder, you’ll soon be an object of fun behind your back for people in your circle and even outside! You never know, they would start sharing dirty jokes with your name on them.

3) Ridiculed For Something That The Whole World Does

Opening about your sexual activities also makes you an easy target of fun and ridicule. Not only it does a character assassination, it also paints a biased and distorted image of you in front of the whole world. Sex, instead of becoming an act of pleasure, becomes a torture when you’re being targeted for something that everyone does, but hardly share!

4) Blackmail Comes Easy Your Way

This is true especially for girls who trust their friends way too much by sharing intimate and explicit details about their sex life, just to boast about it or to get an opinion. Such friends might take advantage by blackmailing about leaking that information or any texts or pictures that you may have shared. The social stigma associated with it is very hard to ignore or to live with given how the society functions in our country. It may be an orthodox way of thinking, but one can’t change the thinking of an entire society overnight, so it is better to mend your own ways!

5) Job Hazards

Your friends at work or otherwise who are privy to such intimate details, might use is against you. Also, if employers come to know of this, it can adversely affect your job, as the employers may not trust you with keeping secrets. Also, with the advancement in technology, whatever you text or share online, will always remain available for those trying to access it! Nothing is deleted permanently, ever!

6) Your Social Standing Is Affected Adversly

Societal pressures can make it difficult not only for you, but also for your family as well. Unless you and your entire family is immune to such things, and that is a big exception, such secrets coming out in public can literally cause a lot of embarrassment and have an impact on your relations in and out of the family.

Having sex related discussions are harmless, but when it comes to sharing your sex-life, it is advisable to be very careful!

Why to spoil the fun and make sex difficult?

Keep it to yourself and your partner!

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All newlyweds must note that sex is not the only ‘sexy activity’ that couples can do during their honeymoon.

There are several other great ways to keep sparks flying.

Now many may have questions like which are the activities one can have with their partners during their very first outing after marriage?

Gander below to know some sensual honeymoon activities that will make your honeymoon an unforgettable trip.

1.  Touching each other in innocent ways.

Touching and caressing each other is indeed a great feeling and it is also the prelude to (ahem) some night activities. You can make each other feel blissful by merely cuddling, caressing one’s hair, fondling the neck, tickling or gazing at each other.

2.  Indulge in massages.

Couples can pamper by giving each other massages or by having massages at spas. These sensual massages are a great way to make your partner feel relaxed and soothed.

3.  Share breakfast in bed.

Sharing breakfast is another sexy thing couples can do. Especially men can go an extra mile and make some scrumptious breakfast for their lady love. Everyone would accept that there is nothing sexier than a man cooking breakfast.

4.  Have a great time by having a cozy movie date.

It’s super fun to enjoy a movie with your spouse plus it’s a real turn on. Catch up some lovey-dovey romantic to risque flicks that will amp up a steamy atmosphere.

5.  Go for an amazing couple dance.

Having sensuous couple dance during honeymoon is one of the awesome ways to get close. So if you both love to shake a leg or two then you must find a local pub nearby and hit the dance floor together.

6.  Fun Activity : An intimate Photo session.

Have a photo session; take some warm and personal snaps of each other in the privacy of the room. You can have your personal photo album as a wonderful keepsake of your honeymoon trip.

Mark these fun activities on your must-do list for your honeymoon that will only enhance and make your honeymoon more memorable.

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Lust Stories – There could be a tidal wave of dissents regarding this web series, especially from the flag-bearers of Indian ‘sanskriti’ that subject the gay, people seeking bodily pleasure outside marriage and the ‘outlaws’ of their likes to a fretting corner.

But thankfully, the unemployed can’t afford the subscription of Netflix and we see our cinema adulting, in terms of dealing with intricacies of human emotions with a thoughtful and revolutionary approach.

Four celebrated craftsmen of cinema, Dibakar Banerjee, Zoya Akhtar, Karan Johar and Anurag Kashyap joined hands to cater us something that can easily draw ire from the society. We are more intrigued because ‘Not caring the diktats’ gives an adrenaline rush of a different kind. However, Lust Stories ticked all the right boxes for us because we are not alien to the concept of four stories being submerged into one. We always liked connecting the dots and finding the common message and here is Lust Stories that came with the package of fresh surprises.

Lust Stories frowns upon the concept of monogamous love that brings our life to a standstill. Love is multi-faceted and one needs to keep exploring. Lust Stories, that was premiered on June 15, tells us that having sexual desire is human and surpassing it is criminal.

However, the fear of censorship was looming over the horizon but Netflix has a way liberated approach to it hence the directors enjoyed room to be more creative and unabashed. Artistic liberty is the key to masterpieces and Lust Stories is one without reasonable doubts. The creaking of bedsprings, pleasuring the self everything was shown in discreet manner but totally decipherable. It takes great minds to come up with such a marvel.

Not too long ago, in the film Veere Di Wedding, Swara Bhaskar was shown pleasuring the self because her marriage had a void and people mud-slang at it citing indecency.

Even some more time ago, when Lipstick Under My Burkha released, people didn’t cotton to the idea of an elderly lady musing about a younger guy. So, people will always have a say no matter how normal these are as humans. Human feelings is a complex web that great poets spent their lives trying to comprehend, we are no ones in that light.

The first chapter, directed by Anurag Kashyap starring Radhika Apte and Akash Thosar shows the ecstasy of hooking up of a teacher with her student. The limitations and boundaries fading is more pleasurable than sex itself. In the second chapter, Bhumi Pednekar is made to play Sudha by Zoya Akhtar. She is a maid engaged in a sexual relationship with her employer.

The question was would she blow the whistle about her relationship with the man when his parents burst in the scene with a marriage proposal or quietly serve tea and snacks to his would be in-laws? The turmoil of the relationship starts when she finds out its criminal to imagine herself in the equal footing with the employer in view of their social differences.

The third chapter depicts how Reena (Manisha Koirala) finds the bliss in cheating her money-minded husband with his best friend which is directed by Dibakar Banerjee and the fourth which is directed by Karan Johar, who sets the flicker high with presenting the voluptuous librarian Rekha (Neha Dhupia) teaching her younger colleague Megha (Kiara Advani) that cleavage is meant to be flaunted, not hidden. And that there is more life beyond the predictable sex-life with the boring husband.

All in all, Lust Stories wears sex as a badge of pride first time ever in the history of Indian cinema. It should not be missed, we urge.

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Sex before and after the kids – Good sex life is the foundation of a happy and lasting marriage but once the honeymoon period is over, all things prosaic start to plague the married life and sex goes out of the window.

The situation goes to sparse with the arrival of children as life changes 180 degrees and we keep tussling and taffying with means to meet their basic needs thereby depriving us of our sleep, forget sex. Nothing is rose tinted anymore and the devil-may-care sexual endeavours boil down to discrete ones.

Whilst every couple are confronted with likely problems regarding sex after kids, artists have laid out some hilarious yet relatable illustrations about Sex before and after the kids:

Sex before and after the kids –

1 – You cut corners:

With a constantly wailing kid in tow, you have learned to fast forward the foreplay part. The child needs attention so you just resort to quickies. Sex, thereby becomes mundane and everything yawnish.

2 – You become more functional:

Getting rid of the wife’s bra was already a task for you but nursing bras are really one piece of work. You have to acquire mastery over it which made you more functional and irritated, sometimes.

3 – You don’t waste your time talking about the lingerie anymore, meh!

You face delayed and failed orgasms now because your mind is no longer in sex but the vaccination of the child and the diarrhoea virus, so you DISCUSS a lot instead on bed.

4 – You sneak out in secret places to escape their sight:

The naughty suckers are around so your life has come to the square one to the dating days when you made love secretly. If they caught you getting intimate, the bombarding questions you have to deal with otherwise.

5 – You are always alert during the act:

You are into each other but you are alert about the sleeping infant in the cradle more.

6 – Sex during pregnancy is moving mountains:

There will be bodily changes in the partner which you have to come to terms with. So, the mysterious lingerie stay put now and let alone different sex positions. You research a lot over the internet now about having sex during pregnancy and it sucks!

7 – The orgasm disruption ratio increases:

You will run out of your fingers to count how many failed orgasms you have had after the babies peeped into your room at the nick on time.

8 – Vaseline is no longer meant for what it used to be:

It is now used for jamming the door-knob to steer clear of the sneaky fellas while you have sex. There is a limit to failed orgasms man!

This is sex before and after the kids – Both the new parents and the seasoned, heartbroken, disappointed ones will relate to these illustrations we assume. Gone are the days of good sex, good food, good life, you are now sucked into responsibilities and sex has taken a backseat already. Duh!

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Slang Words For Sex – Just in case you FEEL too awkward to say “SEX” directly in public, then you can use these naughty ones. Well yes, they’re naughty, but who cares, at-least they’ll keep you from saying the word sex, while having a conversation, right?

Oh and, these slangs might be naughty but they are FUNNY at the same time. I know that for some people saying the word “sex” is not a big deal, but we cannot avoid the fact that there are many who are always embarrassed to use the word. So yes, this article is for people who don’t want to say the word “SEX….Shhhh” Hehe!

So let’s begin –

Slang Words For Sex : 

1. KNOCKING BOOTS

See, isn’t it a simple one? Though it may sound a bit naughty but we all know that it sounds really cool. Actually, knocking boots is an old western term for having sex. It derived from both he & she stripping down and slipping their boots under the bed which sometimes made a *knocking* noise.

2. TAKE A TURN

This is a term used by many. You know; when you just want to leave a certain place with your partner to have FUN, you can simply use this “Let’s take a turn” J Isn’t that naughty and funny at the same time.

3. GET BUSY

Who is going to find out what you’re talking about? Get busy is a term that is extremely popular amongst people. Other than that; there’s also a term i.e. “Get Lucky” which is used A LOT by and it became popular by the Daft Punk Song.

4. LET’S SCORE IT

Now I know that “score” is a word mainly used when it comes to sport, but surprisingly, it can also be used in replacement of sex. I know you might’ve never thought about it, but now you can.

Oh and yes, you can use it too. Others around you might end up thing that you’re talking about matches.

5. SEAL THE DEAL

No one’s going to understand the kind of deal you’re talking about. It’s going to be in between you & your partner only. “Seal the deal” is a common term but always a popular one that is used by many.

6. HIT A HOME RUN

Again, this might sound a lot like you’re talking about sports etc. But hey, isn’t this a great word? Hard to understand? Now that you’ve read it, so it is obvious that you know what it is, otherwise even you would’ve no idea. “Hit a home run” is very popular and is used a lot in United States.

7. MONKEY LOVE

This one includes the name of an animal, but now you know it can used to say sex as well. This one is very popular so look here & there IF there’s anyone around you or not. You know; it is used a lot in movies.

Slang Words For Sex : So which one are you going to use? Do you have anything to add in this list? IF yes, then let us know in the comment section below.

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Funny Questions About Sex – SEX is a big topic.

You know, it isn’t just about two people coming together to have sex. We all know what “SEX” is but we also don’t have a deep knowledge about it –IF you know everything about it, then that’s good.

On internet, there are many people who ask questions about sex and while reading it, it makes us go “Oh yes, that’s a good question.” On the other end, there are people who ask questions that makes us go “Wait, what…is this person joking?” and then we laugh because we think that it’s hilarious. Sometimes even our FRIENDS ask stupid sex questions and we laugh at it first, right?

Similar to that, many internet users ask dumb questions and some take “SEX” on a whole different level.

Enough talking, it’s time you read these questions now. Some might not e directly related to sex but they’re worth reading.

What’s the matter with touching?

All the virgins out there – How are you doing?

Hey Crush!

BUTT…okay!

And the damage is ALREADY done.

That’s too much LOVE for Pizza.

The question is, how could this have happened? Okay!

Hey Justin, are you reading this?

Virginity is gooooonnneeeee…

The answer makes it more hilarious.

Funny Questions About Sex- Do you want to add some questions in this list? Let us know in the comment section below.

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Excuses For Turning Down Sex – I believe that a physical relationship should be built in such a way where your opinion matters. I mean a physical relationship where you both have sex without forcing each other. Yep, because if you’ve to force your partner to have sex, then I think everything is going wrong.

Now, a relationship is not just about SEX, it’s about LOVE, CARE, UNDERSTANDING…the list goes on and on. Today, we’re going to talk about SEX and the excuses which should be accepted by your partner when you don’t want to have sex. Understand, even though it’s gonna hurt your partner’s feelings, it’s all OKAY.

If you don’t want it, SAY NO and end the matter because you’ve the right to do so.

To say it twistedly, here are the excuses for turning down sex.

1. I’m TOO full – A bit gassy

Guys will understand that you’re not in a situation to have sex when you say “You’re too full”. Ladies, make sure to hold your stomach and act it out, so you know it’ll look REAL. Saying “I’m full” or “A lot of gas in-there” clearly shout out that you’ll not be able to do any physical activity.

2. Stomach is paining

Ugh, my stomach is paining so badly, so I’m just gonna take a medicine and sleep. You know what; if your guy is caring, then he’ll quickly say “Oh, you have rest, it’s fine” *blah* *blah*.

3. I’m very tired

Simply tell him “I’m so freaking tired and I can barely even walk and stuff like that”. You know, you can convince him by talking about his tiredness too. Just tell him “Oh honey, you look so tired and your dark circles are killing me, you need sleep”. Trust me; he’ll fall asleep faster than you.

4. I’ve other important things to do

Well, if he is smart enough and understanding, then he’ll let you do your other important works first. So, when you tell him about this, make yourself busy by doing some other office work or your household stuff etc.

5. My back hurts

Oh dear, put your hands on your back and act like it hurts. Tell him that you must’ve pulled something and now it’s killing you *blah* *blah* and end the matter. Tell him to do a massage on your back (Make him a little happy) While he is busy doing it, take a nap and wake up next morning.

This was all about the excuses for turning down sex. Do you have any other excuses to add? Let us know about it in the comment section below.

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“Celebs And The Craziest Places They’ve Had Sex”

Sex is pretty common and celebrities enjoy having it too. In fact, there are some celebrities who think having sex in a bedroom is quite boring and undeniably unenjoyable. So that’s why, they hang out in different places and enjoy doing the good deed 😉

You might think that celebs are popular and that’s why they try to keep everything in personal. And especially, you might think that apart from the sweet PDA, these celebs must be enjoying sex at home. But hold on darlings, there are some celebs that certainly enjoy it outside and you know what, they were even caught doing the deed in public.

Shocking, right? Come on, let’s take a look at these celebs and the craziest places they’ve had sex.

1. Jake Gyllenhaal and Kirsten Dunst

The pretty faces of “Spiderman” and “Southpaw” were once in-love and they couldn’t take their hands off each other. Yes!! Jake and Kirsten had sex on a beach, bathroom and oh, a car. {Mostly some Indians call it “a dancing car” ;-)}

2. Chrissy Teigen and John Legend

Kim Kardashian’s bestiee Chrissy admitted having sex in a plane. Here’s the story- It was a time when she was flying to Thailand with her hubby and there was plenty of time to do exciting things. So the couple decided, why not have sex? She also said, she got under the blanket and did the good deed, almost enjoying like no one’s watching. Great!!

3. Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick

Well…Well…We know Kim K is famous for filming her sex scenes and I guess; she almost inspired her elder sister to do it too. We all know that Gym is a best place to work out, but hey, sex is a work-out too, right? So Kourtney decided to do it there in the Gym itself. And if that wasn’t enough, she filmed it too.

4. Will Smith And Jada Pinkett

The strongest going couple in Hollywood right now is full-of-love. In an interview, Jada revealed that they’ve had sex in a limo. She said “In a limo, on the way to the Academy Awards this year, Will started looking at me in a way that turned me wild. We started kissing so passionately …and then we literally missed the Awards.” LOL, this one is just epic.

5. Cara Delevingne

Cara has not revealed the name of the person she had sex with, but yeah, the Taylor Swift squad beauty revealed she enjoy having sex in an airplane. Once she revealed: – “I’ve had sex in planes a lot. But I’ve always been caught. Once I had sex in a chair on the plane and there was one guy watching me. We ended up complaining that “this guy keeps starring at us. Can you please tell him to stop?”

Instead of stopping the sex, she ended up complaining. No words left!!

6. Gerard Butler

Gerard is definitely amongst one of the hottest star in Hollywood. He has got a charming personality and words might fall short to describe him. Anyways, Gerard loves enjoying it publicly. He admitted that the exciting place he had sex is in a Porta-potty at Coachella. {For those who’ve no idea what Porta-potty is- Google it!}

This was all about the celebs and the craziest places they’ve had sex…Do you have anything to share? Let us know in comments below.

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Ok, I am aware that many of you would be saying the what the heck is a condom!

No net because you are not aware what it is and how it looks like, but simply for the fact that many out there do not let condom be an obstacle in the forbidden pleasures. They do it without a condom, as a usual practice.

Which is not at all safe! No matter this statement of mine goes against the title of this blog, I am still saying it.

Now that I have said what I wanted to, let me come back to the 5 ideas that you can resort to when you are totally up to it, with your partner right besides you, up and roaring, but you do not have a condom handy:

In short how to have safe sex without condom!

1) Call the nearby pharmacy to deliver the pack to you, while you wait with a bated breath for the rock n roll to start. Come what may, do not start the game before the equipment arrives. Be patient!

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Sex!

Oh no, am not talking about the act, but the gender!

Didn’t get it? I mean gender as in male or female!

Yeah, the world is always fair to the fairer sex when it comes to the topic of sex! No doubt, women have been used and exploited as objects of sex and for that, as a man, my head will always hang in shame, but times are changing now and the evolving women of our world are beginning to have a major say in their bedrooms!

And they are voicing their opinions, their tastes, their likings and disliking etc. quite openly and on every possible forum!

Don’t believe me?

Check out girls thoughts on sex in various publications, on websites, at chat shows on TV, and on social media and every possible media outlet that cares to listen (and trust me, there are millions of such platforms eager to listen to them!!) and you’ll find that they lap up every thought or maybe even a giggle about sex as long as it comes from a girl!

What kind of a man you like in bed? What is the size you prefer in your man? How do you want your man to love you in bed? The list of such questions goes longer than the distance between our earth and the sun four times over! No offence to ladies, but they also happily share their views! They should actually, ours is a democratic country! Every opinion matters!

My question is why are men just branded sex-freaks, despos, sex-obsessed etc. without listening to their side of the story? Does anyone care to listen about what kind of girls men want? What kind of sexual partner men are looking for? What brings them happiness and satisfaction in bed? Mind you, this kind of list will also be long enough to compete with the list for women!!

But no, there isn’t such a craze to understand man’s views or opinions about sex! We are just considered to be getting it all anyways and bunk hum theories keep coming up with weird statistics that men think about sex every 7 seconds! Like what the hell? Be reasonable, 7 seconds is way too much, make it at least 9 or 10 seconds? We also feel hungry, sleepy, tired etc. and are not horny 24X7! Damn it, we work also! No, don’t let your imagination fly again that the only work we know is in a bed! But if you thought so, great! At least for a change you might agree that men do some great wonders in bed and are not to be blamed for women being unsatisfied in their sexual encounters! Okay, well some men might fail you, but not all of them!

Well, to cut it short, it is high time that when it comes to women equality and hearing their voice about everything, including sex, men should also be given the same opportunity to voice their opinions about their favourite topic, sex!

Then we’ll see who is naughtier and who has a bigger sex appeal and who makes whom happy!

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It started off with casual dating.

You felt that you had finally found your dream man.

But then suddenly, you realise that his sole intention is to get you into bed.

Did it happen earlier than predicted? Is it coz he is the ultimate Adonis on the college campus?

You almost want to succumb to his subtle hints of ‘how much I love you babes’. But then you fathom all the tricks he’s playing to con you into giving in…and landing on his bed.

Here’s the list of tricks guys resort to get their girl to have sex with them.

SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY IS A MUST

My earlier non-committal boyfriends tried the same stunt. The last one made it very clear after two casual dates that he sought sexual compatibility to get to know me better. When I quizzed if all the girls he had earlier dated had slept with him, he replied in the affirmative. Probing deeper, I asked him. ‘What went wrong?’

All I got was a condescending reply, “She wasn’t good in bed”. Wow, so do you think it is worth being the next item number to impress this guy with your sexual prowess. No ways. Walking out of the relationship was a major kick to my second boyfriend’s inflated ego.

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No, I am not going to start a preachy lecture about how the youth of the country should lead their lives! Ours is a free country and everyone is free to lead their lives the way they want without hurting anyone. As simple as that!

But what we need to ask ourselves is, are we living the way we are supposed to? Every day we claim our rights on freedom of speech, freedom to live, freedom for this, freedom for that etc. How many of us actually value that freedom though? If you look around, more and more youngsters, the so-called future of our country, are found to be enjoying dope, sex and booze, more than sharing their responsibilities towards their own lives! Let’s not talk about responsibility towards family, friends, society or nation! It is all about their life, their decisions, and their way of conducting themselves with no concern about how their actions are impacting others!

Some people might argue that the nation is in the dumps, there are no jobs, and youth is sitting idle even after education so their actions are justified. I am sorry, but I tend to disagree with such lame excuses. Those who deserve are getting jobs. Those who have worked on their skill sets are landing up working for the best organisations. Those who are bringing discipline in their life are achieving their dreams, no matter how fast or slow the process is!

It is a sad state to watch youngsters idling their time away criticising the society and the system instead of doing something substantial about it. Change doesn’t happen overnight and only by posting your views on social media, don’t expect change to happen.

It starts with oneself!

Bring a change in your thought process, be responsible for your actions and try to do something that is within your reach to make a change. No one is expecting a single man or a woman to act like a superhero and rid our country of all the ailments. Instead, take small steps, the steps that bring change, albeit in a slow manner, but those that are long-lasting changes.

It is the state of the society that party songs celebrating alcohol consumption, drugs and sex are ruling the charts! No, the movies are not feeding the society, it’s vice versa! The demand is generating supply and we are happily grabbing what’s being offered to us. It is cool these days to have competitions about how much can one drink in one night or how many sex-sessions can one have at one go. Does that help improve life? Does that bring a positive change in your life? Sadly, the answer is a big NO!

Let’s try and enjoy life, but only after we have discharged our duties towards life with utmost sincerity.

It is only one life guys; don’t waste it on temporary sources of entertainment.

Enjoy them, but enjoy your life too and life is not just dope, sex and booze!

It is much more than that; just scratch the surface and find out how it can be more fun without falling into the trappings of short-lived fun!

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How often you should have sex?

Isn’t this the most important question after “What is he purpose of my life?”

Okay, this might be an exaggeration, but trust me, there are so many people on the planet with  a hoard of doubts, apprehensions and confusions about sex that it is one of the top most questions, solicited from all the sex-therapists worldwide!

Today we are going to answer that, but before that, just put that pen and paper down and don’t even try to record the answer in your smartphone’s notepad! It’s no rocket science guys!

We can figure it out with ease! Get it?

Now, first of all answer this simple question: how often should you eat?

As many times as you feel hungry, right?

Well, likewise, sex is the basic human need and needs to be fulfilled as and when one feels the urge for it.

The question is being asked millions of time – How many times one should have sex in a relationship?

The hard truth is there is no specific number!

However, conditions apply!

1. First and foremost, you and your partner should be on the same page about sex. It depends on partners’ sex drive, health condition, mind-frame, age and sexual needs. If only one person desires it and the other person is not in the mood, then you cannot and should not push it down the throat! Well, not literally here, alright? So just wait for the right moment!

2. Secondly, have sex, but don’t obsess about it! There are a lot more things, important for life, than only sex, while I agree it is one of the important things! Therefore, make love when you know you are not ignoring another burning issue that needs your immediate attention! Your mind as it is would not be completely into it, if you are ignoring something important and trying to wrestle in bed, so what’s the point anyways? 

3. You know what, sex is not only about the physical union of two bodies; it touches the soul, the depth of our emotions that sometimes even we are not aware of. Thus, sex should not be treated as a chore or just a boring bodily function that needs to be performed as a custom on a daily basis. Make it special whenever you indulge in it and when you feel the need for that magical touch!

4. Also, The chemicals released during orgasm and when one feels the supreme bliss with another body, are largely responsible for the contending feeling of love, satisfaction and completeness. Sex shouldn’t be calculated in terms of numbers or the frequency of the act, but it must be counted on how satisfied it makes you after every session. And it’s not just about you, but for your partner as well. More the contentment, more the frequency!

5. The libido or sex drive also depends on how stressed or relaxed your life is, what age group you belong to, what is your gender and so on! Basically, your overall life is a great facilitator or moderator to sex! To have an absolutely rocking and pleasurable sex life, you got to take time out of your busy schedules, be tranquil and help your partner to get ready for the act, just the way you are. This will not only help in strengthening your bond, but will also make sure that every time you indulge in an intercourse, it gives you supreme pleasure.

6. You should try, put in efforts, and help each other to reach a stage where you both should be getting utter pleasure every time you indulge in it, then it wouldn’t matter how often you did or for how long every session lasted! The only things that’ll remain with both of you will be your deepest intimacy and love.

And that’s why honey buns, stop counting the numbers and the frequencies! Stop mulling over the question ” how often?”

Just go with the flow, create the love and romance much needed for life and live the moments fully, as and when they hit you!

Good luck to you all!

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Sex is the basic need!

Now that’s something we all know, but very few are bold enough to admit it openly.

In our country, sex is still taboo and talking about it in public is still considered to be disrespectful and embarrassing for most of us. Therefore when there is a lot of noise around that men only think about sex, men only want to bed women instead of being in a steady loyal relationship, men are only womanizers, it all sounds kind of shocking!

It is obvious that women are making all these comments and to be fair to the fairer sex, some men do fall in such categories. But isn’t generalizing a massive mistake? Not everyone is equal and not all men are same.

For some, sex is the only criteria for selecting a partner and might not think twice before sleeping around multiple women, but there are also men who stay loyal to their partners till they are together and are a couple.

It is a myth that only guys have high sex drives and women hardly want it! In fact both the sexes need it, just that the urge for it differs at different ages for both men and women. For example, men are high on sex right from their teenage and start slowing down by their mid or end 30’s after which they stabilize. However, for women the sexual urges start peaking after early 30’s and reaches its pinnacle towards late 30’s and early 40’s. This is the time when most men want more from their relationships in terms of compatibility and stability rather than just some action in bed. Of course that’s part of their demand list too, but it is not the be all and end all of everything.

Men are human beings too and we all are born with a basic set of emotions. Some of these emotions are hidden or suppressed since childhood owing to the set pattern of society and by the rules formed to guide how a man should lead his life. Sometimes it’s the peer pressure that makes a less self-aware man only seek sex when in reality his needs are more on the emotional level. Men who are violent in sexual relationships do it to satisfy some hidden need since childhood or to release some stress that is being built up owing to their incompetency elsewhere in life. Obviously it is not acceptable and such people should be punished for their acts. But the point is that our society doesn’t teach men how to deal with their emotions. Men are only taught to be strong, brave and courageous. When such men are faced with subtle or different emotions than these, they don’t know what to do! The result is expressing their power and authority by way of sex!

Sex is also a way of satisfying their egos that depend on how much sex they do and with how many girls! It is more of a peer pressure and society’s demand that a man is proven to be a man only if he is a bull in bed!

The real need for men in any relationship is to be loved, appreciated, cared and respected. But that is what anybody wants, male or female, right?

Only if men are taught from childhood to stay in touch with their emotional side and be ready to accept their weaknesses without falling for the need to constantly prove how manly they are, would they be able to live a complete life without giving the impression of being sexual freaks!

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Anytime is a good time for sex!

Ask people if there is any time that they don’t want to have sex?

The answer will be NO!!

Ask them if there is a special time for sex and then their answers will vary as per their taste and preferences. Some will say its night or for some it is early morning and so on and so forth.

Monsoons, the rainy season is one such season that makes everyone that extra turned on for some action between the sheets.

We bring to you 6 major reasons why sex is special in monsoons for everyone to wait for this special season of love:

1) It is a wet season!

Get the drift? Come on, it is the most obvious reason for everyone to feel extra horny! Obviously the drenched wet bodies call for some action and you long for your partner to rock the night! With rains outside and the rain of love inside accompanied by thunderstorms and lightening, it just sets up the whole environment perfect for a beautiful love session!

2) Pleasant Weather

Monsoons make the weather pleasant and one feels relaxed enough to act on their carnal desires. Soft wind blowing, with tiny rain droplets cooling off the whole atmosphere makes you hot and eager to let go off those remaining clothes stopping you from becoming one with nature.

3) Water and Fire

Water and fire are always considered a deadly combination. When hard hitting rain collides with the heat generated by the passion of two bodies, only miracles happen! Sex becomes more meaningful and pleasurable when the forces of nature clash to create magic. Nothing can beat it!

4) Wet Clothes

Bollywood movies have made so many leading actors and actresses get wet in their rain songs. The simple reason being, human body covered in wet clothes is a sure-shot formula for arousals! Who doesn’t love their partner fully drenched and oozing sensuality without even trying? It’s a sight to soothe your senses, not to mention to act upon as well!

5) Perfect Season

Summers are too dry, hot and sticky for us to even considering hitting the sack. Winters are too cold to spend time the act of sexual gratification. Monsoons are like the perfect gift from nature to just let go of all your inhibitions, relax your mind and only consider giving pleasure to your partner and deriving some for yourself! The senses just become stimulated that extra bit required to make sex not just an act, but a fantabulous performance!

6) Music

Are you musically inclined? Well, which other season has as many songs dedicated to it in regards to romance than the rainy season? Listen to any language of the world; it will have songs dedicated to rains and romance. The music just adds on the pleasures of the moment and gives a distinct ambience to the whole atmosphere making it look like a fantasy coming true!

What are you waiting for, hit the bed! Monsoons are here just for a while, don’t miss the action!

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Dear men, have you tried everything, but failed at winning an argument or shall we say any argument with women?

Are you distressed at the thought of next argument brewing up somewhere in her mind ready to blow off?

Are you trying out everything in the book or outside the book of rules to find some way to win, at least once in this lifetime, an argument with your partner?

If the answer to above questions is a clear yes, then do not worry! We have found a few novel ways to help you regain the ground you have been bitterly losing since the beginning of time!

Here are the things to do or ways to follow when in an argument with your girlfriend:

1) Topic Change

As soon as she starts blowing heat, try to change the topic with a superfluous subject like what happened at work or how one of your friend did something funny etc. it just might make her go off balance and might just cool off things! But be careful, if she gets more furious, bring her back to current topic and don’t let her talk about past issues unrelated to current point of disagreement!

2) Relax- NO!

Never ask a girl who is super angry to relax! The moment you utter the word, a thousand volcanoes will burst simultaneously! Just listen to her and instead try to compliment her with as much genuineness and sincerity you can! Not the usual you’re pretty kinds, but something specific based on how much you know her. Watch her calm down!

3) Don’t blame her

No blame games Mister! If she is blaming you for something, it doesn’t mean you have to blame her for her mistakes. Instead, act mature, and try to talk things out without her feeling that you are making her look wrong in the current situation.

4) Agree, but don’t agree!

Sounds complicated? In other words, agree to disagree. Just tell her simply that since you both are adults, you guys can agree to disagree on something tricky out there. If you have a rational girlfriend, she might understand your point of view!

5) Laughter

Oh no, don’t laugh at her, but make her laugh. You know what tickles her funny bone, hit it hard. Laughter makes one let go of high defences and if played your cards correctly, even in the middle of the most hyper argument, you can make your partner laugh.

6) Talk softly

No matter how loud she is shouting, if you talk soft and keep your volume under control, she will come around and soon the argument will convert into a debate. Mind you guys, debates can be won!

7) Don’t lose temper

No matter if she is wrong or how trivial the matter is that is blown out of proportion, decide that you won’t get angry or lose your temper. If you stay calm and composed, she will eventually come around and get tired of her own anger! Once she is calm and has given up, put your point across!

8) Do something wild

Here you have to bring out your creative best! In the middle of a heavy duty argument, do something unusual, out of character. Like sing her favourite song or help her do the dishes. Just something that you don’t do usually and her mind will be diverted. That’s when you can get her to talk sensibly and put your point across.

9) End in bed

Yes, the best thing is to end it with love, warmth and compassion. Make sure you make the move to bring her to love from the point of anger and hatred! It is not easy, but since you know her intimately, you will know her trigger points, use them wisely!

10) Don’t start the argument

It is easier said than done, but here is the secret. If you have accidently initiated a topic that’s going to get her angry, drop it like hot potato and jump to something else. If there is something that has suddenly ignited her anger, politely ask for more time to think about it so you guys can discuss it later! She would have to agree and there won’t be any argument to begin with!

Hope you guys win some points! If there are more ways you have discovered, share with us! Surely many men are looking for a guiding force!

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They say it’s 21st century, but they still directly or indirectly judge your morality by your virginity!

Yes welcome to India my friend, where in fact, virginity is still a big issue and most of us are overshadowed by our hypocritical self.

Honestly I still can’t figure out how can someone judge your morality just like that.

They say you cant indulge in pre-marital sex, but wait for marriage then have the license to do anything.

My question- So is marriage only the license to have sex?

I was watching this video by ‘Bol Public Bol’, and I heard this man who was talking about how even lord Rama abandoned Sita (when she was kidnapped by Ravana) just because people of Ayodhya raised doubts on her purity.

Wow great thinking! slow claps for this man..

Honestly I am disgusted seeing how some of us actually feel about this issue, but then India is a free country and everyone has a right to speak, so I guess I am leaving that just there.

My question to you is, why is virginity still a big issue? And more importantly why it becomes the so called ‘Morality’ issue when it comes to girls?

So if a girl doesn’t bleed on her first night, she is termed non virgin, puhleeezz.. Let me burst your bubble- An intact hymen is not really a sure sign of virginity, even non-sexual activities like sports, horse riding, dancing etc can rupture a girls hymen.

Honestly I thought you fall in love with someone based on how they are as a person, I thought the most important factor for a relationship to work is the understanding and trust but I guess that’s just wrong, the truth is-You have to be virgin and that’s all.

This video will prove how some section of the society (Read us) judge your character based on your virginity. Have a look at this video, you might feel disgusted by some of the comments…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WjF5W7kDZYo

I am still trying to figure out was this video for real? Are we still in the era where a man leaves his wife based on suspicion raised by outsiders?

I am expecting lots of judgmental comments on this article and I know some of you won’t prove me wrong 😉

So how important virginity is for you? Would you marry a non-virgin?

Don’t forget to share your views in the comments below.

P.S Don’t judge my morality based on this…

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Your heart is beating faster, your world suddenly has become beautiful and you are excited to be in a feeling called ‘Love’, but are you sure you are in LOVE and not ‘LUST’!!!

Sometimes you believe that you are in love but after sometime you realise it wasn’t actually love. But can you differentiate between these two? Well yeah, read on and know if it’s love or just lust.

When it’s not just about ‘Sex’ anymore!

Sex is important in a healthy relationship, but if it’s only and only about sex, you really need to think if it’s actually love. Love is more about trust, commitment and communication, but if all you think of ‘Why aren’t we having sex right now?’ then you need to take a step back and commit only when it’s love because it may be lust for you but someone might be falling truly in love with you, so why to hurt others if you’re still unsure of your own feeling?

Lust fades, Love stays!

Always remember if it’s only and only lust, you will be bored of other person soon. Sometimes it’s not just about physical intimacy but emotional intimacy, and if your relationship has more deep emotional talks than sex, feel lucky to be in TRUE LOVE!

When it’s only about the inner beauty that counts!

Sometimes you like someone because you feel that person looks great or hot, but remember if it’s only the outer body that matters to you, with time you will realize you never really loved that person but their body. This quote truly stands true here,”It’s easy to take off your clothes and have sex, people do it all the time but opening up your soul to someone, letting them into your spirits, thoughts, future, fears, hope and dreams…that’s being naked!”. Love someone who they are inside because that’s what they really are. And if you already do that, hey congratulations it’s true love!

When you focus on real aspects of relationship and not just fantasies!

Love isn’t a very smooth journey, every relationship goes through some tough timings and how you come out of it truly makes your bond an everlasting one. If it’s true love you would be more concerned about how to make your relationship work and not just about some stupid fantasies you’re creating in your mind. Talk it out, express and understand each other and trust me it works if you really understand how important you both are to each other.

When you feel for someone without any conditions!

Always remember love is unconditional, while lust isn’t. Someone has rightly said ‘Real love begins where nothing is expected in return’..When it’s lust all you are concerned about is yourself, you put yourself first without even thinking about your partner. But when it’s love all it matters to you is your partner’s happiness and comfort. If it’s just lust, you might sleep with someone else without feeling guilty but when it’s love you can’t even think of doing that to someone you love.

To be honest, it’s not really difficult to know if it’s love or not.

And always remember love is one of the most amazing feeling in the world, if you are unsure of yours don’t screw it up for other who truly believe in love.

So what do you think is it love or lust for you?

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Okay okay, don’t jump out of your seats now!

And what, are you drooling? Come on now, put your eyes back in your socket, we are not offering any options for your beloved better half!

All we are talking about is do we need such dating websites given the fact that extramarital affairs are as common these days as air? Of course, people do it in hiding, yet the whole world knows about it! Some do it for extra spice, some out of desperation, for some it is just to kill extra time and for some it’s a thrilling adventure!

Monogamy has been propagated to us for centuries to maintain an order in society, but polygamy is what has been lurking beneath the surface and has slowly become the hard reality of life. Why not make some money out of an average human’s desire to have multiple partners? Why not tap into the potential of earning quick bucks by exploiting the thrill and adventure seeking psyche of so many men and women who also want extra fun in bed?

Where there is a need, there is a product to satisfy that need. Keeping this in mind, various websites have been launched in various countries to give anonymous extramarital affairs a big push! You are married, but not happy and want some action on the side? Log on to such websites, where many like-minded married people are there for you to chat with, know deeper and take that acquaintanceship to next level by meeting in real life and having some great secret fun!

The only hiccup is there isn’t any such website in India as of now, nothing at least that can offer safe and secret ways for married people to engage in such activities. Yes, the ethics brigade will kill anyone who tries to corrupt the society with such outrageous ideas by offering such services, but that’s hypocrisy. Even without such dating websites the business of extramarital affairs is growing everyday and faster than anyone of us can even imagine!

Before actually asking for it, the only question is, are we as a society ready to accept it? Are we evolved enough to handle it without causing mayhem in our real lives? The adults who would be seeking fun out of marriage in a secret manner, can they actually handle the emotions that will come as a baggage? A lot of thought needs to be given before only concerning yourself with the excitement of getting sex with new partners without any strings!

No matter what anyone’s views are, day by the day the need for such a service is increasing and in the countries where it is launched, it is gaining traction and followers. The day is not far when we see one such website here as well!

For the moment, work on your marriage and try to make it work or get out of it if it’s not working rather than seeking risky thrills!

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“I always think of sex! Please help!”

“My husband doesn’t satisfy me, what should I do?”

I can’t hold for more than 30 seconds? Am I normal?

“Is masturbation good for health?”

Well, does it all look familiar?

Yeah, we know what you’re thinking.

The moment anything or anyone talks about sex, the antennas of our attention are ready to receive the signals. Even better if all those sex related queries and problems are solved on a daily basis and offered to you on a platter in the comfort of your bed! Who can deny such pleasures?

In fact, these types of questions and many more of such kinds, in great graphic and intricate details are published on a daily basis in major newspaper sections under the agony aunt columns. The best part is that they have a great following too! That’s the reason they are being published day after day, year after year, despite everybody taking a hypocritical stand of not talking about sex in public!

For all those who take such a double-faced position, Breaking News: Newspapers are for public consumption!

Now you don’t have to tell us whether you read them discreetly or openly, but we know that you do read them! As a fact of the matter, almost everyone who reads newspapers reads them and it’s one of the spiciest of columns one looks forward to follow. The kind of problems mentioned makes one roll on the floor laughing really hard! You know, who can have such kind of weird sexual problems?

No one knows how real the contributions to these columns are. It is a thing to wonder if someone really takes time out to sit and write such intimate problems and want the whole world to read about it. Agreed that it is mostly anonymous and no one knows the real identity, but it is actually weird to think that these are genuine contributions. But in a sex-starved country as ours where there is hardly any discussion on sex from an educational point of view, such columns are bound to generate curiosity and mass following. At least the experts who give advice are genuine and professionals which is a relief.

The newspaper companies earn out of common man’s sexual miseries and the readers have some free entertainment! This is indeed a win-win situation, except for those who discreetly post their queries with the hope that their sex-lives will improve. After all it must not be easy for them to go and see a sex-therapist in reality due to social stigma and prohibitive costs!

Well, sex-life is important for an otherwise completely healthy life. Better to get issues sorted in public rather than sulk in private and be devoid of one of the most pleasurable acts of nature!

For those anonymous writers, keep seeking help for your sex problems ! For readers, enjoy the fun!

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