As social animals, we humans tend to make bonds!

Bonds in forms of friendships and relationships. Where most important are the ones that are with friends and that one special one whom we share a larger part of our life with, the romantic relationship.

At times, given the scarcity of time and running schedules, we tend to lose on the bonds. It becomes difficult to prioritise among friendships and close relationships. People who invest time in friendships are said to be happier people, and people who enjoy healthy and fulfilling romantic relationships are also the ones who gain perspectives in life and success thereof.

Now, the question remains, where do we need to concentrate more?

Which is more important? What do we need more in life? Friendships or a romantic relationship?

To attain clarity, let’s try and take a closer look at what these two different kinds of bonds render to our lives.

Friendships:

“A true friend is the best possession.” – Said Benjamin Franklin

What friendships provide to make life better far outweigh anything that can be found in material possessions. As a result, they ought to be pursued with far greater fervour than most of us commit to them.

Let’s consider the ways friends make life better. Authentic friends I am talking about here (my personal experiences have a lot to do with this)…

1) Friends encourage us. Friends believe in us. As a result, they offer both the words and the support we need to become better people in all aspects of life.

2) Friends challenge us. Friends recognize deficiencies in our life. They challenge us to embrace and succeed in making these healthy, life-giving changes.

3) Friends motivate us. In every regard, it is highly motivating to know that someone loves you, believes in you, and is cheering for you.

4) Friends listen to us. Friends open their ears and hearts to our words. A listening ear communicates value, trust, and openness. A listening ear and provides the opportunity for our thoughts to disentangle themselves.

5) Friends celebrate with us. Absolute joy is never realized until it has been shared with friends and family, that’s why we immediately call our friends when something good happens. Friends celebrate with us in victory and make our joys complete.

6) Friends grieve with us. Life is full of ups and downs. Friends make the high points higher and the low points bearable. I have done it so many times- calling a friend when I felt distressed and cried in front of them. It helped, and how!

7) Friends support our contributions. Friends recognize the value we contribute to the world and the beauty we offer to it. They look forward to our contributions and promote them to others too. They hold our hands in it.

8) Friends help us to remain honest. Friends know us best. They know our strengths… and they recognize our weaknesses. Because of their intimate knowledge of who we are, they keep us honest with each other and with our own selves.

9) Friends add joy to our lives. According to a study from the Harvard Medical School, the more friends a person had, the more likely they were to be leading a joyful life. There is likely some correlation between being joyful and having friends… but clearly the inverse is also true.

10) Friends improve our mental and physical health. Studies also indicate that authentic friendships actually result in better health. These relationships make healthy habits easier to adopt and the body and mind are more likely to heal themselves.

11) Friendships teach us how to trust. Trust always precedes influence. Sometimes trust can be earned quickly, but other times it can take years of living life together. Friendships lived with utmost integrity bring the trust to our lives and help us to believe in them.

Of course, those of you who already have good friends understand these realities.

On this note, I urge you to take some time today to be reminded of their importance in your life. Adjust your life accordingly. Extend gratitude where needed or change your priorities as necessary to further invest yourself into them.

Now coming to romantic relationships:

Usually, romantic relationships are said to gratify three major needs of human existence.

1. Firstly, the need for being loved, touched, cuddled, and approved
2. Second, the need for sharing, for absolute companionship
3. And third and sometimes the most important one, the fulfilment of sexual desires

These are all universal needs; everybody shares them, even the animals.

One thing I must talk about here is, getting into a romantic relationship owing to societal pressures, or just to fit into the norms, should never be the criteria to define your need or priorities of having a romantic relationship. Get into one, or invest your emotions into one, only when YOU feel the NEED. Do not just shift your focus towards romance and intimacy just because the entire world is doing that and all the people around you are getting married!

Romantic relationships do bring a lot of fulfilment and happiness to us, and they bring us closer to the completeness of being a human. Hence are very much needed.

Anyway, I’d say that a need for a romantic relationship is a totally human and individual thing.

Now, there are a number of people who will read this post and desperately desire the level of intimacy and longing mentioned above. You may have sought these friendships and relationships for years and yet, for one reason or another, they have eluded you. Or you had them at one time, but they have since disappeared from your life. Be there, and never lose hope.

To conclude, as you can derive from the merriments they bring, FRIENDSHIPS and ROAMTIC RELATIONSHIPS are equally needed for a wholesome life, and to strike a balance between both is the key!

Compartmentalizing your time and efforts sensibly, is the secret to everything you need for life.

The path to discovering  authentic friendships and relationships is always the same. It will require risk, trust, ingenuity and honesty. It will require sacrifice and intentional investment. It will require you to give and give and give some more and it will require you to become the very friend you desperately desire for self and to be the genuine lover that you seek.

But in the end, it will be worth every ounce of energy you commit to your FRIENDSHIPS and ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS.

I take the liberty of adding a line here, that if at all you get to experience the supreme friendship and fulfilling romance in one single person, you are the luckiest indeed.

I wish you all rewarding friendships and relationships in life, in all their entirety.

Keep living 🙂

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This open letter is from all girls to their loving boyfriends and not-so-loving ones too.

I urge all the men who have beautiful women in their lives, to read this.

My Darling Boyfriend,

When we met, it was a start to a beautiful life, stars in eyes and dreams at night. I fell in love with you, the complete you, because I know that I need you forever. And I surely want to be the girl who makes your days better, and the one who makes you say “My life has changed since I met her”.

I want you to need me always, need me for these good reasons, just like the Sun needs Sun Rays:

1. To Cheer Away All Your Blues – You Need Me

When you feel the day is too hard and tough is the ride, I’d stand by you like a pillar and make you stride. I’ll make you remember the dreams you painted with wide open eyes, I shall inspire you to catch them before you even realize.

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Hobbies, a great way to get indulged in leisure activities, and super stress busters they are.

When we get weighed down by the ever growing demands and anxieties of life, we turn to our hobbies to unwind and refresh ourselves.

But, do you know that hobbies have a great way to turn your lives altogether too?

Yes, they hold all the potential to transform lives, if taken tad bit seriously.

Let me explain in a better light: How Having A Hobby Can Change Your Life!

1. They Bring An Element of Fun and Solace In Otherwise Routine Life

Well, this may sound like a very obvious statement, but just imagine how much we need these little getaways to build a solace platform for us. Hobbies, in general do not feel like work, they should not. If one is passionate about their hobby, it brings so much happiness, contentment and sense of achievement, when one creates something, out of their hobby. 

2. They Bring You The Much Needed Break Every Now And Then

If I am bringing these bad news to you, I am sorry, but listening to music with earphones on, while you type your emails, is not considered a hobby at all! Please don’t make it either. If there is something which motivates you to take a break from everything else and get absorbed into it completely, that is what you can call a hobby. That is what holds the potential to change your life, bringing a lot of newness, making you look forward to each day and creating something worth a mention.

3. Hobbies Give A Fresh And Brightened Outlook To The Person

Especially when you are involved with a hobby that involves art and creativity, you crave to produce something new every time, and in the conquest you explore the world around. You learn life in different perspectives and in fresher outlook. This makes you break the barriers and generate a life which is way better than the one without a hobby.

4. Hobbies Facilitate Big Life Changes

There have been a few people who agreed that their hobbies have led them to opt for different and better career paths. Just for an example, your passion for cooking can open doors for you to have a day kitchen running and serve amazing food to people, while earning money out of it too. And the bonus is that you are doing what you love to do. Leading a contended life close to your passion. You no longer have to be in a job or profession that is just for the heck of it. This in self is a huge transformation to life.

5. Hobbies Boost Your Health Amazingly

A relative study found that pleasurable leisure activities done regularly were related to higher levels of happiness and lower levels of depression. Which brings a positive boost to overall health. For some people with highly stressful jobs, even leisure hobbies like playing video games or watching a few movies in a row prove to be very therapeutic. And who would deny that a glistening health is a key to glowing life!

Therefore, it’s about time you explored your interests, find something that catches your fancy, or you thing is ingrained in you, yet hidden, and start enjoying a rocking hobby, before it’s too late!

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There are only a few relationships as complicated as that between Wine And Women!

And here, I am given the task to explain it to you. Well, the fighter that I am, I am not going to give up, for the sake of wine, that I promised to self, after I finish this story 😛

Well, folks, the one liner that sums up this complicated wrath is that “Women Love Wine”! This is THE cold, hard truth. And to top it all, it makes us, the sexy ones, look even sexier, and classier! Or at least that’s what we tell ourselves as we uncork our second bottle of the night. There’s no better feeling after a long, hard day of work than relaxing on the couch with your feet up and a glass of wine in hand.

Ahhhh.. I am already feeling the bliss!

And you know what, for women, it doesn’t really matter whether they have a preference for red wine or white wine, the passion for this heavenly liquid knows no bounds of the sorts, well literally!

And while we are on to it, let’s dig the wells a little deeper and churn out some gems that explain the women-wine relationship, in a brighter light! Here are the 8 high-up ones that I could think of.

1. Wine Means Connecting

If you have been a part of the “Sex and the City” generation, I mean those who vouched by the stuff that those 4 magnificent New Yorkers kept discussing, and you desperately wanted to be a part of those deep conversations over wine glasses, you would definitely know what I am talking about! The Connection! Yes! Wine is the tool to connect with girlfriends, and boyfriends, for that matter! Yet, it remains a very female ritual!

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It was a beautiful morning. I looked up at the sky and stepped out of the gate for that most awaited morning jog.

Yeah, I waited for almost 8 hours before I could get up and get going. Just saying!

As I took a few steps towards the road, I bumped into Mrs. Kashyap. She had this huge thaali in her hands and was all decked up.

“Good morning ji, where are you heading early in the morning?” I asked in a rather sugary tone.

“Ohhh good morning, I am going to the temple, to offer these moti choor ke ladoo, I got them specially made from Haldiram, poore 1000 rupaye ka thaal bana hai! My husband got promoted to MD post in his big company, so we must thank the God, you see!” Her voice was quite celebratory.

As she finished talking, this clumsy looking, painfully thin, rag-picker boy (5-6 years probably), in murky looking clothes, those were covering his body, came close to us, pulled on her sari ka palloo and said in a dim voice, “Ek laddoo do na, maine kal se kuch nahi khaaya”.

“Hat!!! Door hat, mere kapde mat kharaab kar! Bhaag yahaan se, ye ladoo bhagwan ke liye hain, tum jaise bhikhariyon ke liye nahi!” And proudly, she headed in her direction!

I could not help but smile, took out my mobile from my tracks pocket and called home “Meera, zara 4-5 bread piece aur ek glass doodh neeche le aao, yahaan ek bachche ko de do”. I asked the boy to wait till my domestic help comes with the food that I called for.

I again started to walk, as my eyes met 75 years old Mathur uncle carrying a big milk can, which must have weighed around 5-7 kgs. He is an old, feeble man with a pale bent spine. He could hardly walk, and the weight of the milk can was further pulling him down. “Mathur uncle, what happened, can I help? Let me hold this can for you”, I gestured to take the can from him.

“No, no!! I have to carry this to pandit ji’s home every day for 21 days. My Guru ji told me that I must offer 5 litre milk to pandit ji, and carry it myself or by a family member, and I will definitely be relieved of my Asthma, after I complete this ritual. Our God lies in our Guruji, I have to do what he says, and I will definitely be well. My Asthma is actually killing me now!”

“But you are so unwell uncle, you should take rest at home, let your son do it for you.” I said in a helpless tone.

“Oh, what are you talking, my son has no time for me, he has gone to visit Amarnath with his family. He wants to please Bhole Baba!” And he moved forward.

I sighed, and as I was about to step forward, I heard someone call my name from a distance. I turned around and saw Usmaan bhai rushing towards me. He almost sprinted towards me, and while trying to catch his breath, he muttered in a single breath “See, my bai has fallen from the stairs and is hurt. Her foot is bleeding. She is sitting in the staircase only. Please take her to the doctor for the first aid, here is some money. I could have done it myself, but it is my namaaz time and I cannot miss it, my Allah will not be happy. I have to rush to the masjid. I am already late. Please do it for me.”

He shoved a few hundred’s bills in my hands and went off in a hurry!

I gave up the idea of morning jog and started to move towards Usmaan bhai’s flat, to take the bai to the clinic.

By now, I was quite confused and asking myself, “We all are so devoted to make our Gods happy? Where exactly is he?”

Do tell me if you have the answer. I shall be waiting.

Writer’s Note: With this story, I absolutely do not have any intention to hurt anybody’s religious sentiments. The only objective is to draw attention towards something, which is getting lost somewhere in the process of pleasing our Gods, which is called Humanity.

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Writing this letter to all the college students is going to be an experience for me and I want it to count for me too, as once in a lifetime one.

Aaah!! The pleasure of talking, and that too, with the younger lot. I am in a lot of anticipation, here.

You know what, college is a place where you become a PERSON! Yes, in real sense. Not saying that, before college you are a vegetable, NO!  But on the college grounds, you start to define self. Well, most of them do.

College is a place where you grow, get opportunities, learn, explore, meet new people and make friends too. Well,  what I am trying to say is, all these bring many NEW to you and I urge you to live each of these new to the hilt. Savour each moment and appreciate what you get.

Also, one most important thing you need to continuously do is ASK QUESTIONS! About self, to self and about other things to others, but to those who are capable of giving answers. Try to say what you mean, and mean what you say. Learn about yourself and grow along as you walk.

And one more thing? If you wish to fly on your own, you have to spread your wings, start to flap and then leap into the unknown. You won’t always succeed on your first try. In fact, you may even get hurt once in a while. But never, ever give up! For you are on the grounds where bruises are imperative! The college grounds. Learn to love the bruises. Yet, take it as your responsibility to identify the possibilities, explore your options, find out what you can excel at and pursue the things you totally, absolutely love. These responsibilities are yours alone. Nobody else can tell you what to love, what makes you proud, what inspires you or gives you a feeling of satisfaction. Only you can do that.

You know, there is a time and a place for every possibility that you may ask for in life, and that time and place are called “College”!

Therefore, chase your dreams with all the vigour that you can, because these years will never return.

Also, as you chase your dreams, always reject the dark side. Do not let any hindrances take you over. But make sure you stand on the right grounds. Make good use of opportunities, but not the people. Do not betray people in anything you do. Do the right thing. Deceit, lying, cheating and stealing are never the way to go. However, being a person of character, surely has a long way ahead. Always try and  put a specimen that you are a person who others can trust and respect. And there my friend, you will find your true success.

Now let’s talk a little about the practical matters too.

If you have chosen to be self-sustaining while in college, it can be a daunting task, I can totally understand that. Yet, paying your own way through college, and being a self sponsor gets you ready for life in very early stages. I have done it, and trust me, making a living has never been a question for me ever again. You just need to stay strong and be proud in what you do, believing in self completely. For those of you who are fortunate enough to have parents who contribute to or completely pay for your college education, be forever grateful. They are providing you with an important opportunity and probably making a huge sacrifice. Don’t take that for granted. Show your appreciation, every now and then. It will come back to you only, in larger ways.

Now, as we know that “Education is the fountainhead of opportunity.” and college is where you are gaining your education.  Just remember that, people who become successful look for, find or create opportunities and capitalize on them. They pursue education in an area that excites them, they develop communication, leadership and people skills, build a network of helpful people and hang out with people who are also going someplace important. That’s what is going to count for you in the long run! And the college life is the base for all of it!

While it is true that you have an obligation to do your absolute best in your classes, do not forget your responsibility towards self to give a rewarding life to self. That means while you devote plenty of time and effort in all of your assignments, do whatever it takes to get good grades and be willing to make sacrifices, in order to find success in college, be willing to take out time to breathe freely and enjoy the moments too. Do not just shackle yourself to the books.

And now when we talk of success, it only depends on how much you want to succeed. Nobody can make you want to succeed in your endeavours. However, the most successful people regularly demonstrate their personal determination through their words, actions and accomplishments. Don’t get me wrong, success is not easy to achieve. It takes a depth of knowledge, an above average level of skill in an area that you love, an ability to see the possibilities and an exceptional inner drive that won’t allow you to quit. You just have to ask yourself, ARE YOU THE ONE?

Because success for sure requires more than a half-hearted or a part-time effort! If you are one of those who are hoping for success without giving it all, then my friend, there is nothing I can tell you. All I can say is, success is very choosy, it doesn’t come to all, and never to those who are not there in complete to receive it. It requires much more. It is something that you must be willing to fight for, something that ignites a passion within you, something that you can’t ignore and something that can’t be denied. When you find your calling, nothing can prevent you from achieving success! That will be the time when you truly become successful!

We all want to be successful and we have the aspirations of success right from college life. However, the only parameter that differentiates  the doers from the talkers is THE ACTION! If you are determined to succeed, you will ACT! Even if you are an ordinary student, but if you have an extraordinary desire for success, you will often bypass the most gifted students, I can assure you of that!

Now, let me wind up by saying that, if you are in college, you are in a dreamland where dreams are for real and life ahead will be decided on how you live those dreams!

My most fertile wishes for you here!  And I am sure they will work for you!

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Multitasking! It is increasingly becoming a very popular phenomenon, in personal as well as professional domains.

Every new and seasoned professional seems to be chanting the multitasking mantra so much that it is actually coming across as an overrated fad now!

Is it, is it not? Let us find out through this lay-down here.

It is a known fact that organisations today strive to maximize their productivity with limited resources at hand. And hence, it has become increasingly important for professionals to handle several responsibilities simultaneously. The challenge here lies with the intern students and young professionals participating in international internships and training programs. While they must take the full advantage of this opportunity to improve on their prioritization and multitasking skills in the workplace, they are also required to produce results to compete, for the higher positions. Undoubtedly, the multitasking skills prove useful in their future careers.

And how do they do that?

It Helps To Learn To Switch Focus, Effectively! 

When the professionals attempt to do several things simultaneously, their brains actually switch their focus from one task to another instead of doing two things simultaneously. This definitely enhances the brain power. Those who are good at multitasking are simply switching back and forth and some people are able to perform this switch extremely quickly, which is a plus for them. As a young professional, who has to deliver effectively, and If you have a number of activities that have a concurrent timeframe for completion, develop a work plan to accommodate that. And learning to switch will help you to progress the tasks simultaneously. International interns working in offices in multinationals can learn how to effectively multitask by planning a schedule that accommodates all of the responsibilities they have to accomplish in a specified time frame. Developing solid time management skills are also very important in such situations.

It Helps To Use The Right Tool for the Jobs, Effectively 

The younger lot is really lucky that, modern day work places are evolving. There are a multitude of tools available to help the energetic professionals to manage their time and workload. Online calendars, time management software and mobile devices such as smartphones are all excellent ways interns can keep track of what they need to do and be as productive as they can be. And these devices are amazing tools to multitasking. In all reality, careers are made or broken by the soft skills that make you able to handle a large workload, through various devices. The ability to quickly process and synthesize information and turn it into actions is one of the most emergent skills of the professional world today. And that is definitely polished with multitasking.

Therefore, I would say that multitasking is definitely a great tool to enhance careers, provided you learn it the right way in the right environment. Also, exploiting this skill to the best, with an objective to produce effective results is also an imperative skill one needs to develop.

Compete in the competitive professional environment with the right tools.

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Richard Branson, Mark Zuckerberg, Steve Jobs, Warren Buffet and Donald Trump!

These are the names of the people who have reserved their names as some of the most successful entrepreneurs of world.

Now, I ask, what do they do so differently that most of us can’t and reach the levels of success that they have tamed in their respective fields. Come to think of it, there be some special traits, behaviors or attitudes, that these business people possess, those have bring them to the pinnacles of success and victory.

Well, I would say that all the business leaders who become a benchmark for many, have their own individual quirks and idiosyncrasies, developed over years of experience within their own unique environments.

Here, I am going to discuss 8 Traits of Most Successful Entrepreneurs of the world, which, if you can imbibe, you can be a successful business person too.

1. Successful People Speak, Yes! But They Listen Much More Than That

Yes, this is surely going to surprise you, because there is a general opinion about successful people, that they do what their own mind says, and do not care about other’s opinions and advices. This is not at all true. If you have any research on Steve Jobs, you would know that a large part of his success is credited to a strong team of advisors and talented fleet of employees. These people would put in sane words into his mind to help him make the correct decisions. No matter he was a difficult boss to work for and he had problems letting go of control, he never was wary of listening to people who he knew can contribute to the success of business. Jobs’ relationship with Apple’s Chief Design Officer, Jony Ive was one of immense trust when it came to product design. Richard Branson also, very proudly listed “Listening” as one of his most important leadership principles. In his words, “Listening enables us to learn from each other, from the marketplace, and from the mistake that must be made in order to get anywhere that is original and disruptive.”

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We all face lazy days in the course of our routines.

Difficulties and hard times, sometimes break our spirit and we tend to lose the motivation.

But, the trick is to handle such dull and unenthusiastic days with added effort and get going, to take on the day as a winner! If you know how to deal with such days with positive mind and a winner’s approach, you will see a huge change in your life, which percolates from day to day actions to your larger success goals.

Personally, I feel quite motivated when I read inspirational quotes from successful people. It helps me to eliminate boredom, laziness, negativity and lackluster attitude, and start my day with a fresh aptitude towards life and my profession too.

And guess what? A great author once said that, people often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing, that’s why we recommend it daily.

Therefore, in today’s post I have tried to bring to you 15 such motivational quotes that you can read on a lazy day and refill your gallons with energy and enthusiasm and head for work!

Read on!

1. “The only way to do great work is to love what you do.” – Steve Jobs

2. “Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs.” – Farrah Gray

3. “I would rather die of passion than of boredom.” – Vincent van Gogh

4. “Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless.” – Jamie Paolinetti

5. “It’s not what you achieve, it’s what you overcome. That’s what defines your career.” – Carlton Fisk

6. “The best way to predict the future is to create it.” – Abraham Lincoln

7. “Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, it empties today of its strength.” – Corrie ten Boom

8. “Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It’s not a day when you lounge around doing nothing; it’s when you’ve had everything to do, and you’ve done it.” – Margaret Thatcher 

9. “It always seems impossible until it’s done.” – Nelson Mandela

10. “Successful and unsuccessful people do not vary greatly in their abilities. They vary in their desires to reach their potential.” – John Maxwell

11. “Without ambition one starts nothing. Without work one finishes nothing. The prize will not be sent to you. You have to win it.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

12. “Nobody ever wrote down a plan to be broke, fat, lazy, or stupid. Those things are what happen when you don’t have a plan.” – Larry Winget

13. “Challenge yourself with something you know you could never do, and what you’ll find is that you can overcome anything.” – Unknown

14. “A year from now you may wish you had started today.” – Karen Lamb

And this last one is huge kick-starter!

15. “Either you run the day, or the day runs you.” – Jim Rohn 

So, here you go! I hope I have delivered today’s dose for you to leave the lazy chair and head out of the door to let the world know, YOU ARE COMING!

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A big congratulations to you!

Yes, I am talking to all men here.

You are in a long term loving relationship. Your girl is your bestest friend, your confidant, your cheering partner and the love of your life! Bravo! Claps!

But, do you know that, no matter how close your girl is to you, she would definitely be hiding a few things from you. Most likely, some of her possessions.

Sometimes, the possessions are from precarious behaviours, sometimes of sheer situations and sometimes simply from personal nuisance, but trust me, if you happen to find them, you would be shocked like hell!

If you’re curious, then get ready for 10 things you’d be shell-shocked to find in your girlfriends room!

1. An Empty or Loaded Pack of Condom Brand That You Do Not Use!

Do I need to say why you would be shocked?

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The fact, that we all need money for day to day survival, stands utterly true!

Money opens the doors to happiness, for it can buy you stuff and wherewithal that makes you happy!

But, what if you are broke and have no money in pocket, let’s say for a day?

Does that mean you cannot be happy for that day? Does that make you spend a gloomy day curled up in your bed?

I say NO!

Here’s how you can make a rocking day without money in your pocket.

1. Walk down to the nearest slum with your guitar or any music that you can play. Find a bunch of less privileged kiddos and sing a song to them while playing on your instrument. Even if you have nothing to play on, just sit with them, chat-up, sing, play games and smile a lot. It may sound a little out of the league, but trust me, when you do it, you will be counting your blessings inundated.

2. Take a stroll to the market. Walk into a photocopy shop and try to photocopy your face, and see how it looks. 😛 Yeah, it sounds weird. But it’s fun, trust me!

3. Go around in the neighbourhood ringing the random doorbells. And hide when they open the door. You will find yourself giggling incessantly when they open the door and look here and there with a puzzled face! Make sure not to get caught. Or if you actually do, be ready with an excuse, such as “I have no milk at home, can I get a cup of tea. My head is aching bad!” If you get the tea, it’s even better! Hi 5 to that!

4. See if there’s an open park concert going on in your city. There are many college groups or upcoming rock bands that organise such fests in the open areas, which you can enjoy without a ticket. Just reach there and enjoy an evening of splendid music, all to yourself, and feel the bliss.

5. Call your closest buddies and ask them to carry some sandwiches and a frisbee or a ball, to the nearby park. Have an impromptu picnic with loads of chatting, food, games and laughter. Cheers all the way!

6. If you are a swimmer, take a free dip in the nearby lake or ocean and let your senses open up. Make sure the water is clean enough for the dip. Or else you can just splash around and feel the happiness.

7. Sit online and make new friends. Ask them some funny questions and get blocked! He he, that was rude, right? No, but seriously, this really is a good thing to do, to connect with new people from far and wide and explore life. Also, you can post some funny pictures of self and laugh at the amusing comments you may get. Watch droll videos online and laugh your heart out. 

8. If you have a photographic heart, just grab your camera, or maybe just your phone and start out on a photography spree. Capture real life as it comes across. Click some good pictures of people, buildings, food or possibly just the squirrels on a tree. You never know, some of them stand out, to be your masterpieces. Show them off, or preserve for self, to watch in some lone moments.

Like the ideas?

Go, get going! And yes, do share with me, some of your things that you do when you have no money in the pocket!

I’ll be back soon.

Till then, Cheers to life! 😀

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We often hear the corporate gurus or self proclaimed life skill coaches reiterating very loudly;

Do What You Love!

Marketing gimmicks, find it too snazzy a quote to print on the cushions, on the mugs, on inspirational stuff and more, and sell it in the name of self-motivation.

In short, it actually paints a picture of some unseen paradise, that may open up to us if we start doing what we love to do! Which may include; skipping office every day, smoking in the lunch room, sleeping at boss’s favourite couch in the recreation room, and eating a lot of pizza loaded with cheese for dinner, every night!

We all would love to do that, and much more nasty stuff, but, can we?

Therefore, it becomes clear that “Do What You Love” is actually a misleading advice! It is utterly wrong! It is not at all realistic.

Well, if you love someone dearly and want them to grow in life and career, never give them this advice – Do What You Love To Do

Asking me the reasons? Here I have the super believable ones!

1. It Is Purely Impractical Action

If we start creating a world, where everyone is doing only what they love to do, how exactly are we going to fill in for the jobs, that no one loves to do, but are utmost important to run the world and the economy. Also, Too much of stress on doing what one loves, can bring a sense of failure, or dissatisfaction, or frustration in those who actually are in the wrong jobs, against their liking.

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So, you must have heard the great saying by a learned philosopher (unknown as yet, he did not make big, must be busy making a literary ass-scent somewhere)…

Well, he said…

“If people are talking behind your back, just fart!”

How apt is this. I just love this, don’t you?

Well, well, jokes afart… errr…apart, let’s address this topic in a rather SERIOUS FARTION!

We all sometimes get into a farty situation. The trick is not to get embarrassed and just make the best use of this opportunity, and be the odourly hero!

Here, I tell you 7 awesome ways to tackle the if you happen to fart!

1. When you fart in public, let’s say while travelling in a metro

Make a dirty face yourself, cover your nose dramatically, look here and there, as if you are trying to find the culprit and say loudly “Whoever that was, next time when you fart, can you please open the windows first!”

And get back to your odour of joy!

2. When you fart in front of your boss while discussing a serious project.

Point at the presentation sheet immediately, and say a smart thing, maybe something like “I have a fartastic plan on how fart we can push the sales graph up”

Trust me, the boss will only be hearing “sales graph up”, and nothing else! 😛

3. When you fart while on a date.

Just fan your face delicately, look at your date with eyes filled with flatulation… eh sorry… adulation and say “I didn’t fart honey, my ass likes you so much, it just blew you a kiss!”

Whatever happens after that, don’t hold me rASSponsible for that.

4. When you fart in a college class.

I am sure the fart that you fart in your college class is a loud and smellier fart. So, just be a brave heart and try to make a fun part; just start to make noises of fart with your mouth blowing like a trumpart! And pretend that you are a funny musical jester from the core of your heart! 😀

Your friendly mates will think that you are just trying to make some ASSome muSTINK! 😀

5. When you fart in a library.

Say loudly “I am reading Shakespeare’s play about surprisingly fragrant flatulence, it’s called All Smells that End Well. It’s such a odourful read! Oh, do they also have a book on the study of farts called ANUSsneeziology?”

Your reading companions will sure understand that you are completely consumed by the Shakespearian offering!

6. When you quite grossly accidentally fart in a prayer room.

Keep calm, keep your eyes full of divine harmony and say softly, “Do you know that the medieval monks use to bottle and vend their farts, as a form of sell-flatulation. Such a blissful and selfless way of offering a piece of self to the world”

After this, you my friend, will be the most admired in the prayer hall.

7. When you fart on an international flight.

Look at your co-passenger. Smile. And say in a pleasant tone “Official immigration policy is that newcomers should light their farts. This encourages ass-immolation. I am new to this country, I am visiting you see”

They will definitely identify with your fartanxiety and excuse you for all the poop reasons!

So my friends, you see, it’s not always embarrASSing to fart!

You just have to display your intestinal fartitude and leave everyone flaber-gas-stinked, while you play i-no-scent!

Happy farting!

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Did it happen to you?

That you come out of a theatre after watching a movie and there is this lingering taste of an appetizing dish on your tongue, your mouth is watering like a cascade and start to crave for the very same food you just saw being served in the movie!

Yes?

Ahhh… I can so relate to it! You know, it’s an enormous orderly disorder which is called a Foodie Movie Buff!

Now, I am sure you won’t ask me what is that! You know that already, don’t you?

To me, foodie movie buffs are the happiest people on earth for they have endless life coming their way, every day, in the food and movie avatars!

They are the lucky ones who definitely have the best of both worlds.

And my friend, If you are one of them, these 8 bollywood movies for food lovers.

1. Bawarchi

Coming from the canvas of yesteryears, this movie is an absolute heaven for people who believe in earthy cinema and ultimate taste of simplicity. Kaka Rajesh Khanna played a bawarchi (cook) in this flick, who knows the magic of putting life back into anything and everything that goes comatose. He chooses Sharma family as his next job house, which is suffering from the utter love loss, and he does this only for the reason that he lives for – bringing love back! And how does he do it, you may ask? Undoubtedly, food and love take the toast! His skills in the kitchen, are absolutely miraculous! The way he chops vegetables with eyeball-popping speed, stirs two cooking pots at the same time and shares pearls of kitchen wisdom from time to time – such as how to jazz up boring colas with lemon and masala, he comes across as a true kitchen fanatic!

And there is a lot more food in it. Go Watch!

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Mental Illness or depression, as we call it so, is a devastating turmoil!

It eats up the senses and sanity of the person who suffers from it, takes away all the happiness. And when I say happiness, I talk about the natural delight of living and to wait for each day as it comes.

Our Bollywood celebs suffer from such mental disorders. Yes, they are not exempted just because they are rich and famous. Popularity has a price to pay, and a huge one at it.

Many film fraternity personalities might be suffering from depression, given the stresses their profession calls for, but we may not know all. Not everyone has the gut to come out in open with such a declaration.

Bollywood prefers to keep such susceptible tales strictly under wraps. Bolllywood hides its scars very well. It protects the secrets too, viciously. Mental health is an area Bollywood stays miles away from, and never talks about it. Whether it was Parveen Babi’s fragile state in the 90’s, or Geeta Dutt’s death on 20th July 1972 at the age of 42, Bollywood chose to keep quiet about those all.

There are other yesteryears’ stories too. Was Meena Kumari really an alcoholic? Why did she seek solace in alcohol? What killed Rajesh Khanna – cancer, booze or loneliness? So many Bollywood heartthrobs descended into private hells after tasting enormous fame and glory.

But one thing is for sure that despite such psychological devastation, they all strived to make it big and they did so too with aplomb. Some of them did succumb to the disaster, but not before proving their mettle.

Let us take a look at 5 Bollywood celebs with mental disorders, who we all know, but not know that they are or were psychological disorder patients.

1. Manisha Koirala

The beautiful Nepalese actor who made way into our hearts doing ILU ILU has had a sad story to her. She suffered acute clinical depression while she was married to former husband Samrat Dahlal. Matrimonial friction and constant fights were the cause. But she did not keep it under the covers. She declared on social media, about her mental state and was open to have suggestive remedies and treatments for the same.  As a result, today, post cancer and divorce, the actress seems to be winning all battles and is an inspiration to all of us. Kudos to the Koirala girl!

2. Sanjay Dutt

Our very own Munna Bhai, who gave us a lesson or two about life, lead a painful phase while he was convicted under TADA. The actor who suffered enough on account of father’s demise, and then marital imbalances,  followed by stern legal combat, battled with depression inside the prison. It was reported that the Sanju Baba would not sleep for nights together and remained depressed. His battle is yet not over and many tough days are ahead. Despite all the hardships, we saw his inspiring avatar recently in the internationally acclaimed PK. He floored us again in this cameo, and not a bit of his performance looked like of the one, coming from a miserable person. He is a star and will remain!

3. Shah Rukh Khan

Don’t be surprised. The Badshah of Bollywood, the star of the stars, the sorted man, SRK battled depression too and came out victorious. Shah Rukh Khan went into depression, post his shoulder surgery. The actor tore a ligament in his shoulder while shooting in 2008 and the injury and suffering plummeted him into deep depression. But, during that period also, whenever he appeared on or off screen, he came across as every bit of a buoyant and a rousing star that he has always been. Fortunately, the king picked himself up and is hale and hearty as ever. We wish to see loads of him in his upcoming flicks.

4. Parveen Babi

One of the most beautiful actresses Indian Cinema ever witnessed, Parveen Babi created waves in late 70s and early 80s. She was a heartthrob to millions in and out of the country. She defined modern dressing in an entirely new approach, for Hindi films. But, the late actress allegedly suffered from paranoid schizophrenia and was severely depressed. She quit the movies and went to the U.S. to join an ashram and clear her head; but sadly that never happened. Depression and schizophrenia ended the life of the beautiful yesteryear actress. It’s spoken that she ended her life on her own to terminate her mayhem. 

5. Deepika Padukone

This amazingly beautiful leggy lass has taken the Indian Cinema by a huge storm and we all know that. But, she was apparently suffering from a bout of depression in the early 2014. While the reason for the same is still unknown, the actress took upon herself to take up the cause and she victoriously decided to support those suffering from anxiety, panic attacks and depression, and took it as a part of her health initiatives. Which is a commendable move in self. Not many would do that, coming from a glamour backed profession. The actress feels close to the cause as she herself experienced the trauma of being aloof and distressed. And with all that going in the backdrop, Dippy gave us back to back hits in 2014. And look at her today, a true inspiration in all her Woman of Substance avatar, roaring loud to let the world listen up!

Well, I say that mental health issues are common in today’s grilling, gruesome and demanding society, but if required attention is not paid and the correctional measures are not adapted at the earliest, they can actually take up lives altogether.

I sincerely extol Deepika for taking out time from her busy shooting schedules to work for the benefit of mental health patients.

Anxiety, Depression and Panic Attacks are not signs of weakness. They are signs of trying to remain strong for way too long.

Let’s give a round of applause to our beloved celebs and encourage them to live longer and happily ever after.

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There are so many dreams and aspirations when one starts to plan about studying abroad.

As students, most of us seem to have this childlike aspiration of going to a foreign land to acquire education. Because we all know that studying abroad can be an immensely enjoyable experience, with the opportunity to know and understand various cultures, meet different people and experience a different world altogether.

Yet, there are many hurdles and impediments one may face while in an alien land.

Here, we have tried to formulate a handbook for you, so that you plan sensibly and make this once in a lifetime opportunity, a truly rewarding one.

First and Foremost – Open A Bank Account In An International Bank 

One of the primary tasks in your to-do list should be setting up a new bank account, that too with an internationally collaborated bank. The crucial notion behind this is to apply for a debit/credit card so that you do not need to carry cash wherever you go. Also, with this international bank account, your finances would be alligned with your resident country, without much hassles.

Get A Sensible Place To Live At

Once you leave your homeland, your next important mission would be to hunt for a good place to live at. This could be temporary arrangement, before you get a college dorm accomodation or some other officially organised one. Your educational institution, and, if not, several real estate websites, can help you regarding this issue. Make a thorough search before you leave and organise a short-term place beforehand. So that you do not feel stranded after you arrive in another country. It is always a better choice to find a long-term accommodation only after you have reached, keeping in mind vital factors, comprising the distance to your institution and opportunities to socialize, etc.

Maintain Your Important Documentation and Keep It Handy 

Print out and store numerous copies of your passport and other essential documents and make a file. Keep one copy of this documentation at your home and keep one at your workplace or in your handbag. You can keep one copy of all these documents on your mail, so that you can access wherever you need, or in case you lose any copy.

A Part-time Work Opportunity Will Be A Saviour

You must look for part-time working. Especially when in a remote country, where sustainability is a big question mark. Working part-time during your studies is very significant for two particular reasons. It not only brings you some extra stash, which of course you can choose to save or use for your day to day expense, but it also instills a distinct bravado in you. Even if you do not need a stipend, hunt for chances to volunteer, as it facilitates the opportunity of exposure to varied environments, meeting new people, and developing new skills. And the bonus here is, you would be adding supplementary points to your resume through these stint experiences.

Learn To Speak and Understand The Local Language! The Sooner The Better!

You must, as soon as possible, familiarize yourself with commonly needed terms in the local language, such as bathroom, food, money, taxi and a few endearments and salutations, which will save you a hell lot from communication troubles. In addition to this, ensure that you have all the important contacts such as nearby pharmacies, hospitals, local help communities, grocery stores and emergency helplines.

Do Not Let The Loneliness or The Estrangement Bring You Down

When you are out and away from the family, it is imperative that once in a while, you may become homesick, feel dismal due to usual study place or workplace failures, or be unnerved by the new atmosphere. But, never ever lose yourself. Let your determination and perseverance to acquire what you are there for, work for you. Always treating the adversities as challenges, and failures as lessons. This is the time when you can construct a bright future for yourself, and you would know that for sure.

Well, these were a few cursor points to make you ready for the journey if you are all geared up for a study abroad program.

Be the go-getter and get what you are destined for.

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An old saying goes – “We have three types of friends in life; friends for a reason, friends for a season, and friends for a lifetime”

Well, no doubt today, friendships are changing and so are people involved in those friendships. We are in the times of social media camaraderie when bonds can be as frivolous as soap bubbles.

Yet, it may not be difficult at all to identify true to heart friendships which will never fade, no matter how bad a face you might put up sometimes, or how grisly a person become, given the circumstances.  Some friends will remain by your side, because they befriended the person in you and not your circumstantial behaviours.

Here, I am going to try and help you to identify 8 kinds of friends who will always be your Real Friends  and you must never doubt their friendship.

1. Friends Who Are True To You Not Only On Your Face But Behind Your Back Too

In the increasing world of gossiping and backbiting, when the spice of life is found in shaming and defaming people for no reasons at all, if you find a friend who makes you feel secure when with you and never back-bites or gossips you behind your back, is for the keeps. Also, If someone else slings your name in mud behind your back, they wouldn’t shy away from bashing that person right, left and centre. Do not ever doubt their friendship even if they might sometimes be harsh with you.

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Many young enthusiasts who are determined t make a sound career in their respective field, do not mind working 12 to 14 hours a day. The long hours enriches them with the greater experience and they learn the nuances of the business. More the time spent in a profession, more expertise acquired on it.

But, sometimes working long hours is not a choice, it is a necessity, for many reasons.

In both the cases, managing those excruciating hours often seems like an ordeal.

For those who are entangled in the web of long working hours, out of choice or as a stipulation, here are a 7 workable tips to help you manage the 12-14 hours work day.

First of all, let us try and establish, the situations in which a professional is expected to work 12-14 hours a day:

• When they are starting up as a freelancer
• When they are starting up a new business
• When a professional is on stringent deadlines
• When someone is trying to make-up for lost time due to low efficiency or being sick
• There is a business season which will last for only a few weeks
• Took up too many tasks, not realizing that it will longer than expected to finish

So these are the usual circumstances, in which an executive or a business person is working long hours.

Now, keeping these in the view, let us discuss how to manage long work day efficiently.

1. Take Short But Regular Breaks

No matter how important task you are on, squeeze in a breather of few minutes after every 1-2 hours. Get off your chair, sip on a glass of water, take a small walk, look out at the flowing scene outside the window or simply grab a coffee. I do understand that sometimes it seems impossible to leave the table if you are in the middle of a creative thought process or something that is really into the flow. But trust me, if you start following this practice, you will realize a fresh flow of ideas and your job in hand will eventually take a lot lesser time than anticipated. Use you mobile phone to put break alarms, both for break on and break off times.

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Friends are our second family after our real family!

The best buddies, the partners in crime, the emotional pillow to snuggle on in times of need and what not! However, only a few friendships survive the test of time and most wither away due to circumstances, personal priorities and unavoidable situations of life.

Can you trust them?

Yes you can, but for how long and how many of them, no one can say! That is why even in friendships, there should be a line drawn when it comes to sharing your intimate details. These details, especially of a sexual nature may initially sound fun or totally harmless, but in the long run they might turn to be your worst nightmares.

Let me explain, in detail, the pitfalls of sharing your sexual secrets with your friends:

1) You Become An Easy Gossip Target

Unless it is your very close friend or buddy, and sometimes not even them, sharing your sexual life is only going to become part of the gossip machine! Sex is something that is still taboo in our country and for good or bad, it is still one of the most talked about things even if in hush-hush tones. To avoid being the centre of attraction for what you did inside a closed room, it is better to leave it there only!

2) You Are Providing Object Of Fun Served On The Plate

Not all your friends are going to help you with suggestions about how to improve your sex-life or solve your sex-related issues, but for sure it is going to be a topic of immense interest for them. No wonder, you’ll soon be an object of fun behind your back for people in your circle and even outside! You never know, they would start sharing dirty jokes with your name on them.

3) Ridiculed For Something That The Whole World Does

Opening about your sexual activities also makes you an easy target of fun and ridicule. Not only it does a character assassination, it also paints a biased and distorted image of you in front of the whole world. Sex, instead of becoming an act of pleasure, becomes a torture when you’re being targeted for something that everyone does, but hardly share!

4) Blackmail Comes Easy Your Way

This is true especially for girls who trust their friends way too much by sharing intimate and explicit details about their sex life, just to boast about it or to get an opinion. Such friends might take advantage by blackmailing about leaking that information or any texts or pictures that you may have shared. The social stigma associated with it is very hard to ignore or to live with given how the society functions in our country. It may be an orthodox way of thinking, but one can’t change the thinking of an entire society overnight, so it is better to mend your own ways!

5) Job Hazards

Your friends at work or otherwise who are privy to such intimate details, might use is against you. Also, if employers come to know of this, it can adversely affect your job, as the employers may not trust you with keeping secrets. Also, with the advancement in technology, whatever you text or share online, will always remain available for those trying to access it! Nothing is deleted permanently, ever!

6) Your Social Standing Is Affected Adversly

Societal pressures can make it difficult not only for you, but also for your family as well. Unless you and your entire family is immune to such things, and that is a big exception, such secrets coming out in public can literally cause a lot of embarrassment and have an impact on your relations in and out of the family.

Having sex related discussions are harmless, but when it comes to sharing your sex-life, it is advisable to be very careful!

Why to spoil the fun and make sex difficult?

Keep it to yourself and your partner!

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Being in a relationship is a beautiful experience of life.

Yet, it can be a daunting one if you are with a toxic partner. Which means, your partner is giving you tough times, and you are tolerating the absurd behaviour, for the sake of the relationship. We understand that when you are in love and you want to make it work. You tend to gloss the bad bits in the hope that things will work out later.

We suggest, do not do that ever!

You must respect yourself before you respect or want anyone or anything else, and tolerating bad behaviours, even if they are coming from your love partner, should never be a choice in that case.

While a little compromise is okay if it helps to keep the love and bonding going, there are 10 ugly things you must never tolerate in a relationship.

Here is our list : Never Tolerate These 10 Things In A Relationship :

1. Physical and Verbal Abuse:

Many in relationships and in vulnerable situations,  put up with emotional, physical and verbal abuse for the sake of being into it, sometimes without even realising it. Yes, it is true that many partners do not even come to know that they are being abused emotionally. If you are constantly put down, or made to feel inadequate, or incompetent, maybe you need to walk out of the relationship, making a choice to respect self.

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