Break-up !!! “Oh god why me? I dedicated myself to this relationship.We were so compatible, then why this happened to us?” and the story continues.

Did you ever wonder why sometimes a perfect relation ends into a Break-up? Look at the stars, they are smiling and that is because they know the secret. Each one of us comes with certain traits, which are defined by our zodiac signs. What we think compatible can be mere attraction; actual compatibility is ruled by the zodiac signs. When people from two different zodiac signs get attracted and decides to be in a relationship, compatibility issues are bound to ascend if they have opposite traits.

Break-up warnings –

We know that, when one is in love nothing matters, but when it doesn’t work then don’t blame the stars. Attraction is just the tip of the iceberg. You never know what lies beyond that. We the millennials don’t believe in stars and astrology, at least according to what we say, but we are sure you must find it interesting to sneak into the fortune column, right? Keeping in mind your zone of interest, here we have come up with six pairs of zodiac signs which can be incompatible despite the attraction. Yes, dear incompatible! Because breakups hit when there is incompatibility, and there is nothing harm in knowing that.

Let’s make your dating experience better which may save you from a bitter Break-up. Even your astrological chart wants to see you happy buddy, thus the warning. Here are the unharmonious pairs, that must maintain safe distance to have harmony in their relation:

Aries and Cancer

Fire and water can never go together. Aries belongs to the fire element, which makes them peppy extroverts; bubbling with life. On the other hand, Cancer belongs to the water element. The cool water makes them introvert folks who don’t let their walls down easily. With the pole apart personalities, Aries and Cancer often struggles with the communication gap, rendering them to be one of the incompatible pairs. It’s better that the ram and the crab never shake hands, else they will end up locking the horns.

Taurus and Aquarius

The honest and loyal Taurus believes in a committed and long-term relationship. They believe in stability and look for equal dedication from their partners. But, our Aquarians are free birds, they love their freedom and don’t mind in trying, before getting into a serious relationship. The stubborn Taurus may get attracted towards the free-spirited Aquarius, who may find it equally tempting to nestle with a dedicated and committed partner. But with the passage of time, the story may spin other way. As per the traits according to their zodiacs, they may have a smooth take off in the air of love, but soon the pole apart trait turbulence may make them hit the ground.

Virgo and Gemini

One is a perfectionist and for another liberty matters more than perfection. The perfectionist Virgo looks for perfection in their relationships; they expect their companion to be caring, understanding and responsible as they are in the relation. But, the plot gets bumpy when the freedom loving Geminis refuses to be just as perfect as the Virgo partner. Geminis are very indecisive in nature and hateto be poked; and Virgos will keep on poking until they get perfection. So, respect your individual traits and find peace in distance Virgo and Gemini.

Libra and Capricorn

When a Libra and Capricorn are paired, they have to struggle hard to maintain a balance in their relationship because of their opposite individual trait. Libras are social beings, party animals; who loves to be surrounded by the friends. But the Capricorns are introvert and lazy people, who loves to be in their own comfort zone. They don’t like their partners to be surrounded by the friends; they believe in me-time. Capricorns are the happiest when they get peaceful and quality time to spend with their loved ones alone in their cozy corners. So, Libras it’s better to stay away from the Capricorns if you don’t want to miss your friends and parties.

Leo and Scorpio

Because of their good sexual compatibility, Leo and Scorpio may feel all the roses in the beginning of the relationship. The most striking thing about their pairing is that, both these signs share similar traits and this striking similarity creates the hullabaloo. Both Leo and Scorpio are adamant and dominating in nature, none is ready to adjust, and ‘compromise’ is an alien term for both of them. Two of the four pillars of a successful relation adjustment & compromise is nowhere in their vicinity, so it is better for them to stay away from each other.

Sagittarius and Pisces

The last pair, which can be mad for each other, but as per the zodiac is certainly not made for each other. Sagittarius is less compatible with Pisces. Sagittarius are quite focused and determined to make things happen with their innovative and enthusiastic approaches. But when it comes to Pisces, they are very indecisive in nature, which makes them totally different from their partner.

These are the zodiac couples which may be mad for each other but are bound to face the friction because of their opposite traits.

Now don’t get annoyed with us love-birds, we know “jab miya biwi raazi, toh kya karega kazi…”right? The happy thing is that, depending upon your level of commitment, adjustments and understanding some of these pairs make their relationship work, not only that they truly complement each other and prove “matches are made in heaven” and no star or sign can do any harm to their trust, respect and love for each other.

Love is beautiful. Not Break-up!

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Break up – So, your iPod is full of emotional songs and ‘tadap tadap ke is dil se….’ or ‘tanhayeee….’ in the repeat loop, right?

Chillax dude, take it easy. You must be thinking of hammering me hard, right?

Please, don’t do that, more or less we all have passed through this phase in our lives. If not know it, at least we can feel the pain a person goes through when someone with whom we weaved our life together leaves us after all tall promises. And some will even tell you that you are free to go, because they are not of your type and still hangs on into the relationship. This world is full of weird people who break up, give bizarre excuses and leave you in the middle of the journey.

Break up

Don’t blame the other one, take your own responsibility. If one relation didn’t work, that doesn’t mean your life ends here, a journey never ends with a single puncture, right? Every person we meet or get attached are not meant to stay with us forever. Prachi met Aadi over Orkut, they became friends and after one year he proposed her. She accepted his proposal and became his girlfriend happily. They had a relationship for three and half years, where the guy was all dominating liberally and she was a submissive belle, accepting all wrongs only in fear of losing him. And one day, he very politely said ‘I’m not of your type’, break up and bid adieu to the relationship, which she worshipped.

Remember when both people truly respect their relation and want to be with each other, they will surely find a way. If not, they one will break up and surely find a way to part.

Now she was all in tears, headaches, depression and suicidal and he was partying, enjoying and mingling with girls of “his type” (god knows his type). You know why this difference? Because she focused her life on him, and he focused on his own life. We all have one life to live, no one can be more important than yourself, because in those toothless years you have to fill your tummy with soup, no one else can chew the chicken for you. Bad joke! I know, but I mean to say that when you have to take care of yourself, then why should you depend on someone else for your happiness. This is the root cause of the after effects of the breakups. Neither turn out to be a Casanova nor a yogi, remain the person you are, that is what makes you unique. So, enjoy every phase without getting emotionally attached to it.

Choices, preferences and needs changes with time and situation. Same applies to our lives: the thing which seems to be best at a particular time can be heart-wrenching in the future. If we keep on holding something which hurts for long time, then it surely will leave a scar, but the good thing is that time is the best healer, despite the deep scars which shouts out the wounds inflicted. When your priced person leaves you and you are immersing yourself in the ocean of despair, ask yourself: do you truly deserve to be in this situation? After giving your honest dedication, devotion and time to this relationship. An honest answer would be a big NO. Most of us fall into a bad relation, because of the hasty decision we make. Often seeing couples around and roomies engaged over phone with their respective boyfriends whole night and going for dates & night outs we get tempted to get into a relation. In this haste we often end up choosing a wrong person and a wrong relation.

Don’t forget to cry out loud. And remember to understand that, when such people leave us, be very sure you are the blessed child of Almighty, who decided to save you from being dragged and bleed lifelong. Most of the relations which ends, can never be a perfect one. There are many situations and instances which would warn you to come out of the trap, before it is too late. EnjoY!! You are free to walk your way, without explaining to some fat head.

If you are finding it hard to come out of the vicious circle, look around, you will find two pillars always there for you: your parents. Do they deserve to see you unhappy after spending half of their life, time and resources? No, they don’t. Cheer up yourself, to cheer those two people who never let you feel the heat of the 18 summers you saw, kept you warm in those 20chilling winters. They sacrificed their vacations, because you were having exams. Dude! Do they do all this to see your gloomy face, which is uglier than the grumpy face they love. Plan a vacation with them, or a surprise party to express them how much precious they are.

If then also you don’t find the reason, look back into the long-lost hobby, which you crucified because you were too busy to entertain some fool. Those books, which longs for your touch or those friends whom you dumped because you found a new best friend. Enjoy your life, the journey is yours, the destination is only yours, no one can walk it for you, neither can take the pains for you. So, celebrateas much as you can, after all you are special and truly deserve to be happier.

My break up gang over there, lets party high and celebrate ourselves with the ones who truly loves us and cares for us and not lament for some old fool, lost in the crowd. Oh! The last thing but most important one, come out of the malignant question, “Why me?”, but here we can guarantee you that this wonderful life would really explain you that some wounds can heal you better and turn your question to a challenge “Try me!”.

Only truth in life is Death, so we all deserve to celebrate our life to the fullest without being fooled by false emotions and embrace it with grandeur. What if a soldier denied killing the terrorist, who was his childhood friend? Situations change, and it is wiser to change ourselves for betterment, rather than hanging on to something which no-longer exist. Be special for yourself and walk the path merrily. Get into your pajamas, don’t brush your teeth, have a cup of coffee, play the loud music “aaj jeene ki tamanna hai…”

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Break-up – Gone are the sweet messages, the inside jokes, the butterflies in the stomach, the waiting, the fighting and fear of losing and patching up eventually.

Now you are ripped off your mental peace and feel like a confused cat who forgot how to cat after staying with hoomans. Every day you wake up thinking it’s a bad dream and things will go back to normal again.

You pray to the lord that he comes back but those prayers fall in deaf ears.

Things will not be the same for a while, in fact pretty difficult at that.

The most important person in your life two years back suddenly turned their back on you. You are more shattered because you know you haven’t only lost your boyfriend but the best friend and reached at your wits’ end. But life goes on and we urge you not to keep a tunnel view. You need to train yourself, condition your mind, that is to say is to deal with the heartbreak. Your heart will heal with time, the heartache will go so will the depression. We are laying down some pointers that will help you to heal after Break-up:

1 – Don’t fight back your tears:

It feels like someone is stabbing you right at the heart over and over again and you can’t defend yourself neither you can turn back time. There is nothing unbearable than the sting of happy memories. You will cry, obviously you will after break-up, feeling paralyzed is normal too. So cry your heart out, surround yourself with people who give you positivity.

2 – Don’t blame yourself:

The only way you can deal with a heartbreak perfectly is to stop blaming yourself for whatever happened because no relationship is perfect and you both had your fair share of mistakes. Don’t wallow in self –pity and don’t pretend that you don’t love him anymore. But since you have no option other than forgetting, let it be.

3 – Feeling angry is okay:

Anger will be taken over by hatred later in some point of time so relax. His deceitful face will no longer bother you someday and you will feel apathy. Feeling nothing for him will be the worst revenge executed.

4 – Be the better version of yourself:

Plotting worst revenge on the person will be solely your waste of time and energy. With time, the answers will unfold as to why did he cheat on you. You will get your answers but not by spewing venom on him but keeping your utmost cool.

5 – Enter the next relationship with an open mind:

So what if your boyfriend has betrayed you, things did not turn out the way you expected but don’t keep comparing every potential partner with your ex. Also, if you talk a lot about your ex to the current partner, you might just scare them off. Stop dwelling on the past and meet new people with open mind.

These are the ways you can deal with your worst break-up and start things afresh. All the best!

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Mistakes To Avoid After Break-Up : –

Ugh, sometimes, break-ups are the worst thing to deal with.

Honestly, break-up sucks A LOT.

If you’re someone who can’t handle or survive that “break-up world”, then this article is for you. Sometimes, when your partner breaks up with you, you certainly don’t understand about how to react in such situations. But still, with a little courage, you try to do something, and it all goes wrong.

Frankly, you need to put yourself together by avoiding certain mistakes. So, take it easy on yourself, and breathe. Let it all GOOOO…

I know, you’re already in the worst zone, and that’s why to avoid getting into more trouble, here are mistakes to avoid after break-up.

1. Feel GUILTY

Why so much guilt? Let it go. Understand, that maybe things were meant to end in that way. So, don’t drown yourself into the worst feeling i.e. guilt. You don’t need to be in that situation, so stop it.

2. Bombarding his phone with calls and texts

It’s OFFICIALLY Over. If that’s the case, then you must keep things to yourself. Don’t text him or call him continuously, because it’ll annoy him. Plus, later if he blocks you on social media accounts, then don’t cry it out babe.

3. Getting into a relationship

Naah, Naah, it’s okay to date someone, but don’t do it to make him jealous etc. (You know what I mean, right?) Getting into a relationship just to drink your current feelings is the worst thing ever. So, don’t do it.

4. Dragging personal things in public

Actually, there are many people who think that insulting their BF/GF will be the best option, but honestly, it isn’t. So don’t drag things in public, and stay away from all the bad vibes and chaos.

5. Harming yourself

Never ever do this. Don’t keep thinking about the things he said while breaking up with you e.g. (You’re not my type or you’re still growing up & shit like that) The truth is, he don’t deserve you at-all. And trust me; he left you because you’re too good for him. So, the problem is that guy, and not you.

6. Crossing lines to make things work again

There’s always a sign that indicate whether you should work on things or not. Sometimes, end means end. So, don’t cross your lines to show your love. If you do that, then it becomes madness and not genuine love.

Mistakes To Avoid After Break-Up – Do you have anything to add? Leave a comment below.

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Break ups take a big toll on life.

Everyone would agree to the fact that it’s one of the bad phases of life. It’s hard to remember that when you’re grieving the loss of someone you cared about, but you’ve got to stay strong. So when you standing near their cars and home to thrash them, STAY BACK.

There are many things you can do after break up but these are precisely the sort of things you shouldn’t do at all.

Below are the things we do after break up that we should stay away from them.

1. Rush into a New Relationship Or No to love… Can’t fall in love again.

Many guys and girls either jump in another relationship to get a warm shoulder or they run away from the love that pours in after the break up. It’s important to not to lose faith in love and live happily with what you have. Rushing into relationship can make you vulnerable and you can end up breaking up the new one as well. Take time and be resilient.

2. Eat And Drink Till It Subside Your Pain.

Drinking and eating your break away will never work. It may distract you for a while but of course the hangover and other problems will stay with for long and affect you later.So better to bounce back to normal living and not to fall for hogging and drinking to temporarily freeze your brain.

3. More time spending on social media sites… End up stalking him or her.

Many people take to social media for venting out their emotions. Don’t put sad songs’ lyrics and angry posts as its better to showcase your private life (which people otherwise don’t know) in a private way. And nowadays due to social media sites the stalking has gone to another level. g about the breakup drama online, no matter how vague, and resist the urge to stalk your ex.  Slow down your constant temptation of checking out on how your ex is living a life post break up.

4. Make Him Or Her Jealous

Making him jealous is not the way out from the past. It can simply put you on guilt mode later.

5. Still Keeping In Touch With Ex And Try To Be ‘Just Friends’.

It may sound simple but that’s not so easy.Staying in touch may not help you to get over the break up easily as you are still connected with the person. One has to move on and then be ‘just friends’ with your ex. Being around him or her may make you feel miserable so instead one can go for making new friends.

6. Going For A Drastic Makeover.

Break makeovers is what many go for. This is the time when we end up taking rash and irrational decisions. And extreme changes in one’s look are not easily digested and later you will regret on the tattoo or haircut you might have done.

7. Giving Up On Everything.

Don’t let your break up destroy your hope. Focus on your studies or career instead as this will help you to forget your ex and will help you to start everything on a fresh note.

Break Ups happen, it’s a part of life but you cannot simply die down. Its advisable to be happy and bounce back to the happy mode.

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Ups and downs are part of a life!

So hold yourself strong even when you are going through a low phase. Especially during and after breaking up with the person you thought you loved the most in the world (of course besides your parents and siblings).

Expressing your sadness through flowing tears or via crying is okay but only for a few days, as this may lighten your heart! Doing it for longer period could be harmful for this could lead to depression or any mental or psychological disorder. Instead, you must emerge as a survivor and not as a victim. Playing a victim game will cause you no good. While surviving will boost you in various areas of lifethat ahead waiting for you to explore.

You never know, you may end up meeting your real soulmate in the journey!

However, you need to ensure to do these five things to yourself to find your real self again after break up!

1. Think “You Are Awesome”

If you have notion about yourself being inferior, then slap yourself hard and remind yourself that you are as awesome as you have always been! A break up or if someone refused to stay with you for forever doesn’t mean that you are any less. Simply, accept the fact that the both of you are not meant to be together. Or He/she doesn’t deserve your love. Or someone much deserving is waiting to be discovered. This can happen only when you stay awesome and open to the feeling of love. Hence, make a list of all good things about you and things that you are grateful for, all because to bring goodness in your life.

2. Get More Fit

Sweat, sweat and sweat! This will relieve you off the stress, you have been dealing with during break up phase. Also, workout will help boosting your confidence. You can go on a walk, run, jog or join gym, aerobics classes etc. to make yourself fitter than ever. Your ex should feel guilty of leaving you, after seeing you in much better shape emotionally, physically and mentally, still doing better in life! However, that shouldn’t be your focus.Your focus should only on improving yourself for the betterment of you!

3. Pamper Yourself

Enough of crying over a breakup! Now, it’s time to pamper those swollen eyes, shabby hair, and unmanaged nails that have become due to negligence towards your own self! Go to a day spa and spend some good time detoxifying yourself. If you have been bingeing on junks post break up blues, stop it immediately! Instead focus on detoxifying diet such as juices, fruits salad and vegetable salad. You could also go on a vacation either with friends or alone! Change of place will have a refreshing impact on your soul! Believe us!

4. Revive Old Relationships That Matter

In a relationship, your partner becomes the priority in your life that you tend to side line or distancing all other relationships like of friend, acquaintances or even family members. After it gets over, you feel alone as there are not people who mattered around! This doesn’t mean they don’t care for you. It could be that they are not aware of your break up, since you have distanced yourself from them emotionally by not sharing your life with them, by not making time for them. Now, this is the time to make a list of all people who mattered to you, start calling each one of them one by one and planning a meet for hang out either for a movie or travel or simply for a coffee. Share your life with them. You will feel happy and beautiful again, surrounded by beautiful friends and family again!

5. Focus on Your Career or Personality Growth

One question that people ask is “What do you do to make a living?” You should always have a strong answer to leave your impact on the world around! Also, good career keeps you financially secure, which is really important to indulge in life’s luxuries. A highly ambitious woman or man are always respected in our society. Find out what you love to do and do it to the best of your ability. You could also learn a new hobby like cooking, knitting or gardening to keep your mind focus on productive things in life. This will also make you feel worthy and good about your own self.

Do these five things to yourself and you will soar high in the sky that your ex wouldone day find you with gorgeous wings and wished if he or she had been flying beside you! What better feeling could it be!

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“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person”.

Does this stand true for you?

Marriage is termed as a sacred bond.  After marriage you are made to believe…And they lived happily ever after, but it’s just a lie you are told to believe.

Sometimes even when you are still married to your partner, you feel like everything you once shared with them is over. You feel like you want to quit, but stay because it’s also tough to walk out of a marriage.

Here we list some signs that show there’s definitely some trouble brewing in your married life.

When you don’t communicate

Communication is very much important for any relationship. Even if you have issues in your marriage and you still don’t talk, then sadly there’s already trouble in your paradise. Lack of communication in a marriage is a very bad sign, especially if you are talking to others and not your own partner. When you don’t even express your emotions to them, how will you survive the life long relation of marriage?

When you don’t respect each other

Just like trust and communication, mutual respect for each other is also one of the most important factor for a successful marriage. If your partner always tries to pull you down, make you feel rejected or dismissed, this is again a bad sign for your marriage.

When you are disconnected from each other

I know in today’s time, when both the partners are working, or if only one is working, it gets difficult to spend some quality time together. But they say it’s all about priorities. If most of the time, you or your partner is spending more time on other things than each other, it’s again a sign that indicates you have moved on from each other.

When there is no intimacy left

Agree or not, passion and intimacy both physical and emotional is very important for a healthy marriage. If you don’t feel the kiss anymore, these are early signs you are drifting apart. Making love is one of the most important way we show closeness and affection for each other, and if you lack some action between the sheets, you need to add some spice to your marriage and save yourself from the heartbreak.

If you stop putting each other first

If you can’t make your partner your priority, your marriage is going to suffer.

If you are self-centered, chances are your partner will feel ignored and neglected at all times and this could hamper your marriage. Marriage is a give and take relation, sometimes you have to ensure your partner’s needs are met while also making sure your own needs are met too. You have to understand and value each other’s needs to be happy in your marriage.

I know sometime it’s tough to survive a bad marriage, but if you really want to make it work, your efforts will count. Both the partners have to communicate and try to rekindle the romance and love that’s missing in their marriage after sometime.

Before quitting and moving always think there must be a reason you held this relation for long.

If this sounds like you or your marriage, you should work on your marriage before it’s too late. Trust me things can always be fixed. There is always hope, all you need is to make it your priority.

Talk to each other, make each other feel loved and secure.

Wake up and SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE!

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