We all are from a planet called People Pleasing!

We love to fall into that acceptance game and doing randomly stupid stuff so that people are pleased of us and accept us as a nice person. This appears so futile to me!

With such ass licking attitude, saying no becomes a huge task!

But, being a girl and that too in young years, it becomes imperative to learn to say no as and when you desire. You have to learn to put your needs first and get rid of the guilt, if you are saying no.

Trust me, it is absolutely ok to say no if you are not comfortable doing something.

Here are 10 situations that may call for a no and you will have to say it in a stern voice, while putting your foot down!

1. You are invited to a friend’s get together which you totally are not up to. Say no and do not feel bad about it. It’s your prerogative to choose your fun times. No one can impose on you. You can always excuse yourself by making a prior phone call and saying that you have to attend to something really important. obscure

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Say no – Anybody would tell you that you should have an open mind about things and take them as they come.

Being positive is one way of being happy. Well, is it? If you do things that you don’t really want to, does that make you happy? Satisfied? Content?

In fact, as important as saying yes is saying NO. Sometimes, it’s vital to stand your ground and reject something. Because only you know what you genuinely want and desire. Settling for anything else will be injustice to your own self.

While those who agree with most things are sometimes called pushovers, those who disagree with most issues can be called proud, haughty or even rude. But then again, anybody who goes against popular opinions or dares to have one of his own is looked down upon. That’s the sad truth of our society.

You shouldn’t let such trivial things come in the way of your views and wants. If you’re not comfortable doing something, you simply say no. If you think you can’t do justice to something, you say no. If you know you won’t be able to give your 100 percent to something, you should shake your head. After all, it’s better to be known as a rude fellow than someone who botches up everything. Isn’t it?

In fact, saying no is a good sign. Most employers look for such candidates who reject certain ideas or not the flexible kinds. Because they argue that when the person does say ‘yes’, he is expected to deliver hundred percent on a strict deadline and with minimum resources on hand. Even psychologists agree that those who stand their ground are most likely to put in their best when it comes to research and work. They take it upon themselves to make the best use of the opportunity and to prove to others why saying no to something was rather justified.

People with ‘yes’ personalities or those who nod their heads for everything may be loved by others as it’s a good attitude to keep. But they are mostly exploited and taken for granted. If and when they do say ‘no’ to something, all he’ll breaks loose as people can’t accept them to have any stands whatsoever. Do you want to be this person? Of course not!

We are certainly not asking you to say no for everything, but try to have an opinion on things. Try to have your own views so that you don’t come across as a pushover. You will always known by the decisions you make and the choices you take. So, be wise!

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They might hate you  if you say NO but how would you resist your inner voice screaming for what you couldn’t deny? Think of a situation when you have no other option to elope, but to say no, would you still find ways to please people and do what they long for? You have your answer.

We see new faces, almost every day (if not then you need a change),  we talk to people we don’t know much about, we become friends to few out of them and then their slaves? By slave I don’t associate to any form of labour work but the form of living in which you speak what they want you to, and thus dare not to refuse them for anything they want. Here are some of the customary habits and circumstances in which you tend to create mess for yourself  by not saying no, don’t worry the solution is the next after the problem:

When you don’t want to do what they want you to do: (Image1)

They might ask you to hang out at odd hours, share drinks with them, do what doesn’t give you kick but a pain. In such situation you might feel bad for yourself, for not fitting into their frame of traits but hey! it’s you, you aren’t born to fix into something but to shone out of all.

Say NO to them, explain them, things that please them isn’t your taste and thus you can’t be a part of it. Only if they value you more than a little and short lived fun, of the moment, they would understand.

When you are between a dilemmatic situation: (Image 2)

Situations which compress you and put you between either ‘wrong for being right’ or ‘wrong for supporting wrong’ comes, such as, when you can’t deny the fact you’re are bound with a bad company but accepting it infront of others could be a red alert for them, and thus you remain quite.

Situations when you’re broke (running out of cash), out of resources or yourself need help, indubitably you can’t be somebody’s back then, you ought to say the ‘NO’.

But for how long you can let things be like this? Learn to say no, for a better life.

NO at/for work:

You know you have worked really hard for it, you can’t let them share credits and thus you should tell them NO, but how?

Things inspite of being same means different on professional note, you need to be very careful. Yes! a NO can take away your job but you have to decide for how long you can live with that fear of being fired.

Say no because you respect your hard work and let them know what are your opinion.

Learn to say NO. It not only makes the way clear for you but also gives you a sense of satisfaction, that you spoke for yourself.  In nutshell:

. Say NO politely

. You need not to give any justification

. Because it was better than YES!

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Say NO – When our heart is hungry, it buys lies.

We all are sucker for love, there is no denying that when we are loved, we feel stronger to achieve any feet, be it the love of family or a significant person. So, in pursuit to lock that love and throw the key away we sell our soul and self-respect to buy bliss sometimes. Some love come with expiry dates, it comes when we don’t need it and goes leaving us desolate when we need it the most. There are times, hence, saying NO is important when our intuition suggest that this relationship will not grow us or the other person is exploiting our benevolence.

Being too honest is not the way to live in this society because the crooked trees escape the logger’s machete while straight trees are cut first.

Here are a few quotes that will help you understand what we mean – Say No:

1 – Screw monotony:

You know what a dog does? When it sees something is not worthy of it, it just pees and passes. May be we should borrow this nature from dogs trimming the pee part. We are all in pursuit to grow through our experiences and when you see the particular person is not adding to it, say NO.

2 – Don’t allow yourself to be normal:

Because we all are striving to rise above mediocrity and constant fear to be slithered down again, so if you allow yourself to make peace with the toxic thinking it to be your comfort zone, you are only buying pain.

3 – Be your favourite person:

Because self-righteousness is the only life-blood of your existence.

4 – Don’t fear the heartbreak:

So what if you will cry? It is the only thing that indicates you are alive since birth. Heartbreaks are normal and the pain will heal as time takes its course.

5 – Don’t say NO to yourself:

Because when you are saying YES to someone, you are giving them a part of yourself, your time, your benevolence, your warmth, your attention so make sure they deserve it and give you the same in return.

6 – Push your boundaries:

If you fear the change in your life after saying NO, you can strive to make it a positive one by doing other important things and become the best version of yourself.

7 – Mean it:

Do things you love and don’t do things you have aversion for. Mean it if you say No!

8 – Don’t live in a fool’s paradise:

Mark Twain once said that if you argue with a fool, he will drag you down in his position so give a piece of mind to people who don’t understand you.

9 – Evolve:

Evolve through your experiences and save your time and energy for the special person who deserves it. Other ones are here to teach you by breaking you, a life lesson. So say NO when you are at the saturation point and move on to the next.

10 – Because you are not easily accessible:

Hell yeah!

So, say NO, peeps!

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