One of the widely known concepts in the west, friends with benefits, is slowly becoming popular among Indians now.

Despite our society’s staunch beliefs and various taboos associated with ‘sex’, this concept has found favours with the youth.

For those of you who have been living under a rock, friends with benefits is nothing but having intimate relationships with a friend without emotionally committing to them.

So if you’re having sex with your buddy, without the hassles of dating/marriage, you’re said to be friends with benefits. The benefits being, well, sex.

There have plenty of movies made and books written on this topic, all of them with a similar ending. One of the two does fall in love with the other and it complicates the hell out of the situation.

Traditionally, women have found this concept rather weird as they need emotional fulfilment more than its physical counterpart. But more and more modern women chasing after their careers and dreams, the joy of dating has gone out the window. So what do these ladies do? They seek out their friends and indulge in a casual relationship that has no baggage and works on ‘no questions asked’ theory.

But people are more complicated than this, aren’t they?

How can you sleep with someone and not get emotionally attached to them at a certain level? May be it’s not love or it is, but it does make matters worse as you start investing in the ‘relationship’. Even though there’s no relationship. Nobody can be so shallow and stone-esque that can simply satisfy themselves and walk out the door. Even if the society doesn’t bother you, your conscience does prick on you. When people realise that they are physically quite compatible, they start to wonder if they should give their togetherness a ‘chance’. If they should take it a step ahead…the two might not even be exclusive, but they start thinking about a future that’s full of confusion.

This concept is quite popular with the youth as it gives them an opportunity to explore the good and bad without getting involved with the person. It allows them to have fun without the social demands of commitment, care and accountability. Since it’s mutual, it doesn’t give way to any interference and domination. This works the best for those who are commitment-phobic. They have the warmth of a friend, their physical needs are taken care of and they don’t have to answer anybody. W.O.W! B

But how healthy is this concept? Not just for the body, but also for the mind? Does it make one feel unwanted and undesirable or makes one feel important and extremely desirable?

Do you believe in this concept?

Would you ever consider doing your friend, without the strings of commitment attached? Whether you do it or not, remember to not judge others who are doing it.

Because it’s a) none of your business, b) they don’t care!

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Friends with benefits – Being friends with benefits is a welcome whiff of change in the dating scene now especially for the commitment phobic and have an aversion for coochie-cooing.

It is a hook-up of sorts with no strings attached between two people who have mutual liking towards each other. FWB is not aligned with any future plans and couples just prefer to go with the flow.

However, there are always chances of falling in love loom over the horizon after those frank talks, sex and being emotionally intimate. An Identical example of this fact was shown in the movie OK Jaanu where the two wayward individuals eventually fall in love and tie the knot.

However, there are some ground rules to maintain the Friends with benefits tag if you are not intending to fall in love and end up in deep soup anytime soon.

Here are they being friends with benefits :

1 – Have a clear idea in your mind about what you are looking for:

Don’t mix up emotion with sex because they are poles apart. It is best to be as transparent as possible to make the most out of the friendship. If one person falls in love, the other should still hold ground not to.

2 – Don’t expect it to turn into a relationship:
Yes, if you both want it to happen, it will but you should not rush into things. Also, if one person falls in love and wants to take the next leap while the other is not ready, he should give her some more time to come aboard.

3 – You should scrutinize your feelings regularly:

If at one point of time you are feeling like you are enjoying too much and want to while away more time in their company, you should calm down the thumping heart because you are getting seriously attached. Well, there is no harm in it but the other one should be in the same boat too to make things prosper.

4 – Always respect what the other counterpart feels:

You should respect their feelings too, that is the true essence of a relationship, here’s talking about a friendship. If you feel like they are taking the emotional route, you should avoid the suggestive conversations that strike more passion in them. But if you too are ready to delve deeper, then why not?

5 – Remember that sex is the key here, not emotions:

People opt for FWB relationships for sex and good times with each other. You should hence be secretive about your personal stuff and the pillowtalk should be discreet too because being engaged into each other’s lives make you a couple eventually.

You should not face a robust challenge to maintain your beneficial friendship if you follow these simple rules that had been laid out by the psychologists and relationship experts. This is a common scenario among people in modern day society now to have FWBs so proceed with caution to enjoy all of it.

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