Among the scores of odd emotions, sadness and unrequited love has been killing people from ages and there is a maddening tumult in our heart when we bid farewell to someone who we really held dear and planned our future with. The most heartbreaking good-byes are, however the ones that is unexplained. Not always we mean to say good-bye to them, also it doesn’t establish the fact that we don’t love them anymore, it is however the most painful way to express your deep love. The person leaves but the scar in your heart remains forever. Furthermore, there is a sense of defeat because you tried so hard to make things prosper.

There is always confusion between waiting and forgetting as both are painful and we are always in an awkward dilemma which one to choose. Here are some examples of the most painful good-byes that will leave you misty-eyed:

When you say good-bye to a person and still wait for his texts, you are in an endless tunnel of depression and darkness. You wake up every morning with his thoughts and a biting heartache and wait for the day when you will stop missing him. But it looks forever anyway.

You know in your heart that when he stops missing you, it may be because you have stopped missing him too. But some years down the line, when you both have moved on with your lives, the thought of bumping into him and act like start strangers makes your heart numb.

You move hell and heaven to forget the person but a part of you still craves for his touch always.

You are sure to lose some people in your life span and you realize no matter how much time you spent with them and how much you truly appreciated them and told them so, it will never seem like you have had enough of them.

It is never wise enough to shift focus to other potential love interest to forget one person because it same like imprisoning yourself again and hoping for the impossible.

One day you will realize you have lost a diamond while playing with worthless stones.

He will stay in your heart forever but it is painful to come to terms with the fact that he won’t stay in your life.

His memories will rush in in those lonely evenings, while you visit the places you visited together, but he will not be there by your side neither there will be any hope of him coming back.

You will cry and be over it for some days, then you will cry and love him again until one fine day your heart turns cold and you don’t think of coming back again.

Loving him was never a mistake, it proves that you are a kind person but thinking that he loved you surely was.

Those people who have passed through this phase will completely relate to all the above points.

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Hi There,

I know you are dealing with a broken heart and I will say that I understand your feelings because just a few days ago, I went through the same.

I know it’s hard and I know you have been dealing with a lot of shit around but I hope you know that it’s not over yet.

People come and go, some leave with an impact on us and some just stay with us forever. So, that person who just left you isn’t the one who was meant to be forever and you have a long way to go in your life.

I am sure, life became really hard when you had a breakup and nobody around you understood why you are so devastated. Well, it’s hard for someone who hasn’t been through the same to understand what you are going through. But I do and here I am, saying that you don’t have to be that sad. Yes, you loved that person and felt like this is ‘the one’. You know what? That person wasn’t the one and the person who really is going to change your life for forever is waiting somewhere for you to breakup with this person and move ahead in life positively so that you can meet the real one.

Everything that happens in our life, happens for a reason.

No, this is not just a saying but a fact of life. The breakup just happend, the person who you just lost, was just a phase that occurred in your life because for better things to enter in your life, you have to lose the average ones. Don’t tell your heart how much you loved that person, tell yourself how better you can do in future. Tell yourself repeatedly that you have much more than just love in life and you’d rather waste time on yourself than a person who has lost the place that you ever had in your heart.

I don’t want you to get drunk or party hard to forget all that. I want you to read positive things, meet positive people, give time to yourself, and find a little peace to think –

What Next? I followed the same and here I am, with a whole new perspective of life and trying to inspire more people who have dealt with the same.

Hope you find what’s right for you!

With Love,
Someone who understands!

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Break ups take a big toll on life.

Everyone would agree to the fact that it’s one of the bad phases of life. It’s hard to remember that when you’re grieving the loss of someone you cared about, but you’ve got to stay strong. So when you standing near their cars and home to thrash them, STAY BACK.

There are many things you can do after break up but these are precisely the sort of things you shouldn’t do at all.

Below are the things we do after break up that we should stay away from them.

1. Rush into a New Relationship Or No to love… Can’t fall in love again.

Many guys and girls either jump in another relationship to get a warm shoulder or they run away from the love that pours in after the break up. It’s important to not to lose faith in love and live happily with what you have. Rushing into relationship can make you vulnerable and you can end up breaking up the new one as well. Take time and be resilient.

2. Eat And Drink Till It Subside Your Pain.

Drinking and eating your break away will never work. It may distract you for a while but of course the hangover and other problems will stay with for long and affect you later.So better to bounce back to normal living and not to fall for hogging and drinking to temporarily freeze your brain.

3. More time spending on social media sites… End up stalking him or her.

Many people take to social media for venting out their emotions. Don’t put sad songs’ lyrics and angry posts as its better to showcase your private life (which people otherwise don’t know) in a private way. And nowadays due to social media sites the stalking has gone to another level. g about the breakup drama online, no matter how vague, and resist the urge to stalk your ex.  Slow down your constant temptation of checking out on how your ex is living a life post break up.

4. Make Him Or Her Jealous

Making him jealous is not the way out from the past. It can simply put you on guilt mode later.

5. Still Keeping In Touch With Ex And Try To Be ‘Just Friends’.

It may sound simple but that’s not so easy.Staying in touch may not help you to get over the break up easily as you are still connected with the person. One has to move on and then be ‘just friends’ with your ex. Being around him or her may make you feel miserable so instead one can go for making new friends.

6. Going For A Drastic Makeover.

Break makeovers is what many go for. This is the time when we end up taking rash and irrational decisions. And extreme changes in one’s look are not easily digested and later you will regret on the tattoo or haircut you might have done.

7. Giving Up On Everything.

Don’t let your break up destroy your hope. Focus on your studies or career instead as this will help you to forget your ex and will help you to start everything on a fresh note.

Break Ups happen, it’s a part of life but you cannot simply die down. Its advisable to be happy and bounce back to the happy mode.

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Most of us have had these heartbreaks at one time or another.

Moving on is never easy, especially in those first few months. And well it’s the same for everyone, trust me.

These GIFs perfectly explain the emotions you go through after a breakup.

This is a part of your daily routine!

You tell this to yourself!

And this!

You start blaming yourself in the beginning for trusting them!

This is how you answer if your friends call to check up on you!

This is how you mostly plan your night!

Sad music is your company mostly!

And slowly you start hating your ex!

And you stop believing in love too!

This is how you become after sometime!

And then you realize you have moved on from them!

And you start living your life with freedom again!

Until you fall in love again!

So which of these emotions you have felt after your breakup?

We know it’s a painful phase but with time you realize crying over something over and over again doesn’t help.

Live your life, enjoy, spread cheer and love the most important person in your life, and I remember I told it already once, that’s you! Yes you are the most important person in your life, so value yourself.

So cheer up if you are going through this phase, because today you may be sad, but tomorrow you will be just fine…

As kisi mahapurush ne kaha hai- What doesn’t kills you makes you stronger, so remember that!

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Breakups can be heartbreaking, and to be honest sometimes they suck too, but always remember in your temporary pain don’t ever do things that you would regret later.

Sometimes when we are upset, we do take decisions that are stupid, but later we think about them and laugh at our self, been there done that 😉

So today lets look at some of the things that are big NO-NO’s after a breakup…

Do not beg him/her to get back

This one is a big NO-NO if you are going through a breakup. Do not lower your self esteem by begging him/her to return. If they really wanted to stay, they would come back anyway, but never beg for a reconciliation ever because if they rejected you again, you will only feel hurt and humiliated and would regret doing that. You might cry now, but later you would realize what on earth were you thinking back then. So now you know what not do when dealing with a heartbreak.

DO NOT BECOME DEVDAS! and I meant it Don’t…

Hold back, this was just a breakup and not the end of your life. Don’t think getting drunk and always being a cry baby will solve anything for you. You also know once you are drunk, you would keep on calling and texting him/her but trust me next morning you would regret doing that. Refrain from any such stupid activity after you are drunk.

Don’t become a stalker!

So you keep checking his/her Facebook profile, and keep sulking over what his/her status means. Stop over analyzing things or try to read between the lines. Checking their Facebook or social media page won’t help you, rather it will make you even more upset if they shared any picture of hanging out and enjoying their life. So delete or even block them but don’t ever stalk them, NEVER EVER!

Rush into another relationship just to pretend you are ok!

When you are emotionally down, anyone who gives you a shoulder to cry on becomes your best buddy, and suddenly you see a potential partner in them, but hey STOP! You are only lying to yourself, and probably just to fill the emptiness in your life, you might say yes to them, but later you would realize how stupid you were to rush into things, and honestly you are not only cheating yourself, but also your partner. So take your time and don’t rush into another relationship.

Don’t try to be friends with them!

If you think your ex can be your friend, you probably got that wrong. Now if someone couldn’t even understand the love you once shared with them, how would they commit to your friendship? So do not think of being friends with your ex, may be sometime later you can think about it but honestly not now. Think this way round, you are still friends with them and you still have hopes you might be together someday, but suddenly you see them with a new partner, how would you feel? Can you imagine yourself in that situation? You would hurt yourself even more if you do this.

Do not colour your hair or try to get a tattoo!

We do take impulsive decisions when we go through a breakup, and this one is specially for girls, if you think your looks were a reason you broke up and changing your looks and making them jealous might get them back, you are wrong to think that way. So don’t think to change the way you look just because of a guy or girl who ditched you.

Do NOT think about hurting yourself

Sometime when you are dealing with emotional heartbreaks, you tend to take stupid steps like hurting yourself, trust me you would be a fool if you ever tried to do that. If you think by slitting your wrist, your love would come back to you, you are again fooling yourself. This will make you look like a psycho and they might be afraid of you and more than that you will hurt your family and loved ones even more. So do not think of doing this stupidity ever.

Do not isolate yourself

I know you are upset, you don’t like going out or meeting your friends, but you have to be clear being alone won’t solve your problem Spend time with your family and friends, use your energy for constructive things. Go out, have fun, live your life because as they truly say Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara! It’s ok you can cry, but don’t be lost and depressed, time heals everything, and I mean it EVERYTHING!

I am sure you pretty well know what not to do, still we tend to do things we know aren’t right for us. But sometimes we need to understand what is right and what is wrong for us.

Live, breathe and enjoy every moment irrespective of anything, believe me right now you might be feeling like it’s the end of the world for you, but sometime later you would think and feel ‘What on earth was I thinking at that time?’

You may cry if you want to, cry your heart out, and then just let it go…

Sometimes we have to go through a breakup to understand TRUE LOVE! And never ever give up on love just because it didn’t turn out the way you wanted it.

Choose to be happy, and let your ex be your past and not let him/her spoil your present or future.

Good luck!

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Love – Oh sweet love!

It is good only until it lasts…

And when it is over, it becomes a nightmare for the person who loved more or the one who lost everything…

Love is more of a sham in this present world… no one properly understands its meaning and the ones who do are simply gifted with hate, lies, cheating and mistrust. So much for falling in love with someone you fell ‘weak in the knees’ for!

But, we won’t be giving any ‘relationship\shit advice here… we are here to highlight what went wrong for some couples…

Here are some Revenge Stories After A Breakup that are sure to give you the heebie-jeebies! We will not be revealing any names and locations for anonymity.

Break-Up Sex

Well, in this case the couple had already broken up when the girl found her boyfriend to be cheating on her. She planned to seek her revenge in the nastiest way possible… she had pity breakup sex with him and took the condom home with her… She carefully extracted the semen from the latex and paid a woman some hefty cash to have this guy’s baby (via sperm implantation) and torment him for eternity for alimony. Now that’s called revenge! :O

Apple Fan boy? – No more!

So there was this couple in the US which was all lovey-dovey until all hell broke loose. The guy was constantly beating her for her rejection towards non-consensual sex. Well, he didn’t rape her or anything but kicked her out of the house they were living-in together.

She somehow snuck-in into the house from a window and decided to first dump into a bathtub and then douse into flames all his Apple products that he had so painstakingly collected – sweet! 😛

Girl Got Owned!

In this case, the girl was constantly flirting with other men, even after constantly pledging her love to her boyfriend and intending to marry him later on. Sadly, her shenanigans proved unworthy.

Her boyfriend decided to set things straight, not only did he file a lawsuit against her for cheating him out of his money, he also managed to take whatever assets she had thanks to a pre-nuptial agreement they had signed before marriage. – AWE-TO-THE-SOME! 😀

A Story From India

This is the case of a girl from rural India where a guy bespoke of his love towards her but never really proposed to her properly. Yes, they were in a relationship, but the ‘feel’ was missing. The guy simply wanted to marry her for her money.

The girl slowly realized the situation and since her daddy was a honcho in the Police department, she filed a case of rape against this guy. The case fell through in the long run due to lack of evidence, but the lesson she taught the guy to not mess with her was FANTASTIC! 😉 😛

I Sold The House, Mister!

This is a pretty common revenge in the US. When wives find out that the husband they ‘oh so love’ is not on a business trip but actually running around with a floozie, they simply decide to sell off the house and use the money for fighting the divorce case – BEAUTY WITH BRAINS! Not only does the husband not have a house anymore to bed the floozie in, he also loses everything in one jiffy thanks to an extra-marital affair! 😉

Once a breakup happens, for most couples-that-were, hate crimes and revenges are now a common factor. The one who got hurt more thinks that hurting the betrayer is the ultimate satisfaction – little do they know that ‘ignoring’ and ‘throwing those memories into the dustbin works better.

After all, what wasn’t meant to be is a lesson for you not to fall for someone at all – work hard, earn a living, which matters more!

Love, marriage, and sex, these are all secondary!

Revenges are now old, ‘ignoring’ and ‘having the same amount of fun’ is the new trend! Try it and post in comments how you felt to ignore your ex and manage life perfectly fine without them. Also, post a revenge story of your own if you have any. 😉

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