Fighting is natural for couples. Arguments and show downs are common features that keep the relationship going. But sometimes, these fights can blow up into something so huge that it can lead to a break-up.
Fighting is natural for couples. Arguments and show downs are common features that keep the relationship going. But sometimes, these fights can blow up into something so huge that it can lead to a break-up. Here are some rules to follow while having a fight. Read on:
Don’t bring the past up:
There’s no need to go into the ‘you did this then…’ phase where you’re slinging mud at each other. Let the past remain…in the past. It makes no sense to think of then and fight now. Why would you do that? Remember that the person you’re fighting with is someone you love and respect.
No getting personal:
Your fight is with the person and not his/her family. No need to call his parents, siblings and friends bad things. It brings you down and reflects your upbringing than insulting him. If you’re confident about your argument, stick to it and don’t start abusing his/her folks.
Nothing physical about it, please:
One of the most important rules to follow when fighting with your significant other is to keep physical blows completely out of it. Irrespective of your gender, you should refrain from slapping, shoving, pushing or punching your partner. It might just be the end of your relationship as nobody wants to be with an abusive partner.
Hitting the pause button:
If you feel that your arguments are being blown out of proportion or that there’s no way around the fight, simply hit the pause button. Many experts might argue that it’s better to stay up and put an end to your fight, but that can make matters worse. It’s important to hit the pause button. Take a break and figure out why the fight is important or relevant at all. If you feel that you’ve been dragging on in order to win the argument, it’s time to call it off. No point dragging it, right?
Don’t involve the kids:
It’s never a good idea to get your kids involved in an ugly spat with your partner. Young children will get influenced in a wrong way and might even start hating one of the parents. While older kids will lose interest in studies, work and even relationships if the constantly witness such fights. To make sure that your private problems remain with you and your partner, keep your kids out of it.
If you’re constantly having issues with your partner, it’s important to sit him/her down and have a frank talk than fighting over petty issues.