One theory that’s taken the western world by storm is the concept of ‘˜Yes parenting’. It’s nothing but allowing your kids to do whatever they want. As advocates of this concept believe…
One theory that’s taken the western world by storm is the concept of ‘Yes parenting’. It’s nothing but allowing your kids to do whatever they want. As advocates of this concept believe that freedom will eventually make the kids grow up to be better individuals.
They say that when you give your child everything without putting any barriers, they will become more responsible as opposed to those growing up with restrictions. Because the proverbial forbidden fruit is far sweeter and tempts kids into doing it. But can Indian parents ever accept this theory? Let’s face it, we all have been wacked out of our minds for asking/demanding for something. Our society still looks down upon on love marriages, pre-marital sex and gay encounters. So how can we expect our parents to sit back and say, ‘yes, kids…do whatever you want’?
Although it’s not always healthy to give your kids what they want as they will go through life never having been rejected and when they face the real world with all its ups and downs, they will be completely lost. One of the reasons parents insist on setting up boundaries is that from an early age kids come to know that life won’t always be rosy. That unreasonable demands will be shot out of the window. That you just can’t win them all…
While the new age parents argue that if life is going to be so tough on the kids, the parents might as well be the saviours and prove the kids with everything and listen to their every whim and fancy. If the child wants to eat ice cream for breakfast and burger for dinner, so be it. Later on, when the child goes to hostel or college, it’s going to have to do without any of these luxuries. So if the parents don’t give them the best, who will?
Do these ‘yes parenting’ kids become brats? Actually, no. According to a survey conducted by an independent research centre, these kids are better prepared and more responsible as they don’t have restrictions.
They learn from their mistakes and are not tempted to disobey their parents because they have got just about everything. The study further states that these kids give their hundred percent t everything as they want to impress their parents and thank them for being supportive and encouraging.
We don’t know if this modern parenting technique is right, but definitely there’s no harm in giving your kids freedom. Trust them to do the right thing and they will. May be we can use a little bit of ‘Yes’ and a little bit of ‘No’ parenting to make growing up a lot of fun!