How many times have you heard women talk about their virginity like it’s some precious gem that ought to be guarded with their lives?

How many times have men and women given more importance to virginity of a person than his character and personality? Is virginity that big a deal in our society?

While losing your virginity to the right person is one thing, but guarding it in a cage with four soldiers around it is something totally different. It beats the purpose, does it not? If you’re old enough to decide who you wish to marry, you’re obviously old enough to make love to the person…even before being bound by the rituals of matrimony. In fact, marriage has got nothing to do with it. But in our society, anybody who voices her opinion on such things is branded a wh*** or a sl**. How sad is that?

In no way are we telling people to go ahead and get down and dirty, we are only asking them to not attach much importance to it as it’s just one part of intimacy. In today’s day and age, nobody really bothers about a ‘pure’ and ‘virgin’ bride or groom. With people getting married well into their 30s, it’s but natural to have sexual encounters before they settle down with ‘the one’. If your partner is going to judge you by your previous encounters in the sack and break off the relationship because you’re no longer a virgin, you’re probably better off without him/her. Such hypocrites tend to talk nineteen to the dozen about virginity, but would be the first one to jump into a bed full of legs if they had had the opportunity.

Often youngsters are faced with the moral dilemma of losing the big V versus preserving it for the true love of their lives. While it’s a great idea to wait till you’re mature before becoming sexually active, it’s quite ridiculous to judge those who have indulged in it. After all, it’s their goddamn life. If others have chosen to change the order of things…that is, sex, followed by courtship, followed by marriage or not… Who are we to point a finger at them? We can only ask our friends and family to use protection and be mindful of all the repercussions of unsafe sex, and not badger them with lessons on moral values.

Actually, there’s no right or wrong when it comes to matters between the sheets. Some still feel that abstinence is the best way to prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancies, while the world has moved onto contraceptives and other preventive measures. In a conservative society, virginity is quite the fancy word, only used in whispers and never spoken out loud. While the western world embraces the word for all its passion and beauty and believes in ‘live, let live’.

It’s you who has to decide whether you wish to be bogged down by the norms of the society or rise above it and do what you please like. But don’t forget that you have to take precaution if you’re going to do something that would have a major impact on your life.

Moreover, don’t do it because you want to be a rebel, do it because…it feels right.

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“Virgin Will Easily Relate To These Judgements”– Virginity is a big thing and losing it is even more.

In this world; if you’re a virgin then people will come up with their own thoughts which will indirectly judge your sex life. I mean; the more you’re aged the more you will be attacked with stereotypical thoughts.

In short; it’s almost like two opposite poles i.e. virgins x non-virgins. The people who are non-virgin almost feel like a BOSS whereas the people who are virgin are been labelled as “immature”. Thus, there are many such people who will laugh their pants off if you tell ‘em that you’re yet to lose virginity. (Yes, the way they show in movies and shows)

Nowadays people even hesitate to spill the real beans.

But all I know is “being virgin is not a mistake” & these judgements should be stopped.

Virgin will easily relate to these judgements :-

1. They are not fully developed

Just because a person is virgin it doesn’t mean that he/she is not physically or mentally developed in their life. I mean; who knows the virgins might be smarter than the one who says they are non-virgin. And those pricks need to know that before a virgin – an individual is a person just like the non-virgins out there.

2. They are waiting for the marriage

Alright! Even if a person is really waiting for it; I don’t think there’s anything wrong about it. Or it can also be that a person is actually waiting for that “someone” who loves ‘em back.

And to be honest; virgins don’t need to get their pants down in front of any unknown prick. Isn’t it?

3. Something might be wrong with their body

First thing foremost; you’re not a doctor so don’t talk about the body issues. Just because a person is virgin it doesn’t mean that he/she have some body-problems. Got it?

4. Virgins are good for nothing

Really? Now that’s how people judge your entire presence based on the sex-life. Well, they don’t even have any clue about your sex-life but just cause’ you’re virgin they will decide that you must be bad at everything.

5. Virgins have no idea about sex

Stop It! Look there are many types of sex-educational mediums that help you learn about sex. Now only cause’ you need some sex-advice from someone; it shouldn’t matter that he/she must be a virgin only.

And as I mentioned; virgins can be smarter than you are. (Who knows? They can be)

6. They always run away from intimacy

A person should feel comfortable while doing things and if they are not then why force yourself. Even if a person is getting chance to lose the virginity; it’s fine if he/she sense that they shouldn’t do it plus there are many non-virgins who regret losing it later.

In the end, it is a personal choice & that’s all.

This is the way Virgin Will Easily Relate To These Judgements – Any thoughts? Leave a comment below.

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