In a relationship – Are you one of those people who feel jealous of their friends who are in a relationship?
Did the need to find a partner ever made you so miserable that you ended up having a breakdown? It is very common to see young adults being in relationships. You will see couples hanging around in coffee shops, malls, restaurants and pubs and would wonder whyyou are not a part of this club. These days, when kids as young as 12 are dating, you feel something missing in your life when you are single in your 20s. Your 20s is that period when you are either studying in a college or working as a professional.
This is the time when you discover life. Amongst other things, you wish to discover love as well. When that does not happen for a very long time, you feel dejected. You start questioning yourself.
You wonder whether you lack something that has resulted in you being single. When you see your friends reaping the fruits of a healthy relationship, you feel terrible about your life.
It is important for you to understand and realize that it is perfectly okay to be single in your 20s.
Build a career
While being in a relationship could be very exciting, it takes up a lot of your time. You have to make time for your partner and make sure that they feel that you care for them. While your friends might be okay with you if you cancel an outing, your boyfriend or girlfriend would not be that forgiving. If you fail to make time for them, it will have an adverse effect on your relationship. This is bound to consume some time and more often than not, you will find yourself struggling with your schedule. As this is the age when you are trying to set the foundation of your career as a student or a professional, being single would enable you to devote all your time and energy towards the same.
Spend time with your friends
When you are in a relationship, you end up spending all your time with you partner. You do not get enough time to spend with your friends. Your partner might be the most important person in your life but friends are important too. Once you get into a relationship, you end up making and then, cancelling the plans owing to your commitment to your partner. They end up losing friends whom they have been with for years. If you are not in a relationship, you have enough time to meet your friends and hangout with them. If you are feeling lonely because of nothaving a partner, their presence will not let you feel so.
Saves you from heartburn
In the modern world, you seldom come across people who have been in a relationship for a very long time. People get into a relationship and then break-up at the drop of a hat. Since everything has become very convenient these days, people do not invest a lot of time and energy in a relationship. Being in a relationship could be amazing but a heart-break would be difficult to deal with. While some people get over it in a jiffy, some get into depression and take other extreme measures to get over it. Not being in a relationship saves you from the risk and the horrifying after-effects of a heart-break.
No matter how understanding your partner is, once you are in a relationship you start moulding yourself according to your partner’s expectations. This is the time when you should be trying out different things and taking up challenges that make you realize who you are and what do you want in life. If your partner does not appreciate you engaging in a certain hobby, you will dissociate with it sooner or later. There will be times when you will keep things within yourself and refrain from expressing yourself as you know your partner will not able to relate to your thoughts. When you are single, you do not get restrained by these things. You are free to make your own decisions and the only person you are answerable to is you.
You still have time
As they say, 30s is the new 20s. In today’s world, when there is so much competition out there and you are burdened with tremendous pressure to prove yourself, there is a chance that you would not have the time to seek companionship. There are times when you might feel like pitting aside a few things and making time to meet people and find a partner. Do not get stressed if things do not work out for you. You are young and you have a lt of time to find a partner and enjoy the perks of being in a relationship. At the moment, there might be a couple of other things that need your attention more. Do not rush into anything and just wait for the right time for things to fall into place.
It is great to be in a relationship and it is equally amazing to be single.
Both come with their sets of pros and cons. As a young man or woman in your 20s, you must not think too hard about things which are not in your control. Instead, you should focus on doing things which are in your control and exploring opportunities that you come across every day.