India attained freedom on 15th August, 1947!
With that came the right to live, right to speech, and right to many other things for all.
But, are the women in our nation, practising those rights to their own will?
Are women, be it in an orthodox society or any modern household (apart from some exceptions) making a life as per their own will and wish?
Are they allowed to make the smallest of choices, when it comes to decisions as small as going out for a friends’ night out or just for a movie with the gang? Don’t they have to seek permissions?
Can they roam around on the streets feeling safe and secure without any fear of getting disgraced or raped?
Have women attained freedom at all?
With the cases of more and more women becoming victims of domestic violence, family atrocities, sexual violence and never ending rape coming to light, we women are far from anything which is spelled as FREEDOM.
I say, it’s a woman only who will have to speak for self and snatch that freedom, and this is how you do it:
Overcome The Taboos
The first and foremost thing is to overcome all the enforced restrictions and taboos, and live your life the way you want it… It is, after all, your life! You do not need to be a conformist or anything else, just be yourself. You do not have to seek validation from anyone. Learn to make your choices, if you know that they are not going to harm anybody in person or the society by and large, and they will just enhance your life.
Once you learn to overcome all of that, you can regenerate your life. And besides that, you will also start to care for your health and body even more, when you get rid of all the supposed shame, which these imposed boundaries and social taboos tend to inflict.
The good thing here is that besides health and other related issues, you will start doing things that make you feel happy and good about yourself, without any uncalled for embarrassment. Not just that, you will be able to use lots of things which you never had nerves for, or you felt uncomfortable about, and for what? Why to feel uncomfortable? For some silly social conventions? Please… sometimes they are just a pain in the… you know what!
Discover The Possibilities
Once you get rid of the social stigmas and are able to bring in the self confidence that you always needed, you will see that so many paths are open, and you can take them all. Health, profession, pleasure, it is all yours, so why not do the things you want, since they are for you. And just that you know, YOU DESERVE IT. Happiness is a right and we all know it.
Teasing, Rape and Violence are Not Your Embarrassments
Ok agree, that a woman is biologically created to appear vulnerable and a soft target for many unsolicited actions, but that doesn’t, and should not, stop you from doing the right thing. If you find yourself in a life situation where you are disgraced, or besmirched, even by a family person or a friend, BRING IT TO LIGHT AND REPORT TO THE AUTHORITIES! Because it is not your shame, it is and it MUST BE the shame for the one who inflicted it on you! Shout for your right if you have to, scream to ask for it, snatch it! But do not become a victim of pain, and embarrassments imposed by the society, that hold you back from doing the right thing.
You Create Life
To be a woman is a such a beautiful experience, when you know that it is only you who can create and facilitate natural human life on the planet. You ought to be treated with respect and honour. Most of the times it is our own fault, more than anybody else’s, that we succumb to the situation, for the soft demeanour that we have. We do not want trouble for family and that is how we become the sufferers. But then again, who created that family, who is nurturing the family? If that one single individual is not given a respectful life, a status in the society, the right to choose, and the right to fight for self, then no one deserves it more than her. If a woman is not happy, chances are, that she won’t be creating a happy and wholesome life for those around her.
A woman’s mental and physical health are the greatest benefactor for her family’s mental and physical health.
It is not a curse to be a woman. It is one blessing that everyone should ask for. Be thankful that you are a woman and give self the freedom that you deserve, IT IS YOUR RIGHT TOO.