It’s one of the most awkward things to happen to anybody. While your older (or younger) siblings’ friends are great to hang out with, it can get a teensy bit awkward if you happen to date their best friend. It’s all sorts of ‘˜weird’ and most have not been able to deal with it. But if you’re ever caught in such a situation, here’s how can deal with it. Keep the following in mind:
It’s one of the most awkward things to happen to anybody. While your older (or younger) siblings’ friends are great to hang out with, it can get a teensy bit awkward if you happen to date their best friend. It’s all sorts of ‘weird’ and most have not been able to deal with it. But if you’re ever caught in such a situation, here’s how can deal with it.
Keep the following in mind:
Crossing the boundaries:
More than you, it’s your sibling who is totally awkward about the whole deal. He/she is fighting unknown demons by just imagining you with his/her best friend. It’s important that you don’t cross certain boundaries when you’re the one dating your sibling’s friend. You do not come home and tell everything that happening, you don’t have to share with them how your date was, you should keep your lives separate as long as you can manage it. Since your sibling has a very different view of your partner, they are going to freak the hell out when they find out their friend’s ‘romantic’ side.
Siblings as a spy:
Yes, your siblings do know a lot about your partner’s past. May be your sibling was a big part of that colourful past too. But that doesn’t give you any right to ask your sibling to spy on your partner. No need to find out about your partner’s exes as that will not do any good to your relationship. It’s better to start afresh, like you would with a total stranger. Just forget the fact that your sibling has any idea about your partner’s life.
Indulging in PDA:
There are certain rules to be followed while indulging in PDA in front of your sibling. How much ever cool and outgoing your sibling, he/she cannot see you (and his/her buddy) being all mushy and lovey-dovey. It just doesn’t sound right. There’s something fundamentally wrong with a person if he can be ‘okay’ with this set up. What you do behind closed doors or anywhere else is nobody’s business, but blatantly putting out in front of a sibling who also happens to be your partner’s closest buddy is, umm, gross.
Sharing your sibling/partner’s secrets:
So you’re crazily in love with your partner and want to tell him/her everything. Well, don’t. Especially those secrets that your loving sibling has shared with you. Ultimately, the bond you share with your sibling is a pious one and it calls for some respect. Similarly, you should not reveal anything that your partner has told you, while courting you. Really, you’re in the tightest spot possible. But if you do manage to get past all this, you’ll have a fun relationship where your sibling actually loves the guy/girl you bring home!
Expectations high as a kite:
Okay, this is the real hard one. The expectations are going to be impossibly high. Your partner is best friends with your sibling and now dating you, so your parents are going to be one very high couple. You have to either sit them and ask them to calm the hell out, or tell them to treat this as normal courtship (ha!). Whatever you do, every party associated with this set up will have great expectations as breaking up with someone who often visits your home and is chums with your sibling and parents can be really painful. You’d constantly be told about their whereabouts, life’s milestones and other incidents that you don’t care about post-breakup. Yes, tread carefully. There, we said it!
So, this is a tricky and perhaps off-limits relationship to have, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t be attracted to your sibling’s chum. Go ahead and give it a try, your sibling will always be there to hold, care and support you. Don’t let your life be ruled by ‘what ifs?’
