They say, he who can’t keep his emotions in control is a fool and may end up being unstable in life. I, however, am of the opinion that it is quite normal to get pissed; and I’m sure, you share the same.
I remember my moral science lessons from childhood. Controlling your anger used to be one of the major chapter we were taught about. They say, he who can’t keep his emotions in control is a fool and may end up being unstable in life. I, however, am of the opinion that it is quite normal to get pissed; and I’m sure, you share the same.
Being angry solves your problem automatically. Say in a situation when something goes wrong in our life. You don’t sit and wait for it to clear up on its own or you don’t give up. Instead, it makes you do things that you would have never done, had you been in a normal mood. Ever since I remember, I have been told that we gained independence because we had freedom fighters who fought for us. But frankly speaking, they were just the leaders of a mob, who wouldn’t let anybody rule over them.
Research has shown that people prefer to be happy when collaborating but angry when confronting. A study conducted on what effects could anger cause suggests that, we might not always be better off trying to get into a good mood. The biological reason being, expressing anger increases blood flow to a part of the brain thought to be involved in feelings of happiness.
It is appropriate, healthy, and even useful to feel angry when competing or fighting with others, though it is not good for our overall well-being to feel anger across all situations. Here are a few stances wherein venting out your anger could do you no harm.
Relationships- I am an impatient person. The more I suppress, the more I suffer. To avoid anyone close getting blasted off by me, I prefer talking it out with the person concerned. Therefore, when used right, anger can make you feel strong and powerful and help in pushing you to get what you want.
Positivity- Believe it or not, but study shows that people who tend to get angry frequently are more optimistic. Obviously, things don’t pile up inside their head because they choose to vent out their feelings sooner as compared to others.
Workplace- As much as I hate saying this, but it’s better if you don’t choose to implement all of this at your workplace. Up speaking might not always help you when it comes to your career.
A new psychology based on face reading also suggests that anger is good for you as long as you keep it below the boil. Of course that does not mean that you keep losing it quite often. But maybe at times, losing it might help you bring it back. People who respond to stressful situations with short term anger or indignation have a sense of control and optimism that lacks in those who respond with fear.
Now you know what to tell people who tell you that your anger needs to be controlled (wink).