Women are judged by appearance – Sex is a personal choice but when we combine women and sex the society gets judgemental. Oh yes losing virginity before marriage is a spicy discussion …
Perceptions people have about extrovert girls have been explored and talked about.
But there are lots of cases where women are judged by their introvert nature.
Women are always judged on their behaviour, nature, character, dressing sense.
You wear a short skirt that becomes the reason for grave crimes, you wear a burqa your religion is perceived.
The peer pressure of losing virginity is actually sometimes more severe than those marriage pressures at home.
It is like a girl is an object and is some sort of scoring point for the guy.
Then there are those sceptical eyes that wouldn’t believe this and try and find out every possible link of the girl’s life history.
Why is a girl’s virginity so much a topic of interest is something I would never understand… apart from guys there are those poky relatives who are ever enthusiastic to gossip about this.
Oh yes losing virginity before marriage is a spicy discussion and spicier one is being a virgin and unmarried till your late 20s.
If relatives weren’t enough there are also these family doctors lecturing about the sexual cycles and the urgency to get married and have babies.
Life is much more meaningful than losing something out of peer pressure.
When a woman confesses being a virgin or never kissing a guy, the expressions on the faces of the others suddenly start displaying the wide Kathakali artistic emotions.
That woman is immediately perceived as an introvert. The mental note or picture of her character is drawn and she is even at times tagged as a ‘behenji’ or not really fun loving person.
Fun – a highly subjective matter is always a convenient tool to judge a woman when it comes to her #VirginQuotient.
A virgin woman can be partying or hanging out with her buddies or may even seem to enjoy life much more than others.
How it is never understood that instead of having several bad experiences and going into depression and trauma the woman chose to be a virgin and confines having sex with the one person she is completely sure of!
Sex is a personal choice but when we combine women and sex the society gets judgemental.