Come on, tell us frankly, what crosses your mind when you think of moving in with your in-laws? that they will be intimidating? there will be winds of unsolicited Gyaans? they will press you for bearing their descendant? the will keep you on your toes with the household works? they will be fault-finding and you can’t dress up in your own terms? well, my girl, get a fact-check. The recent scenario has changed a lot and the in-laws are not all those from the K-series serials chanting mental dialogues against you or vowing to destroy you. Take a chill pill!

Millennials are afraid of marriage because in Indian ethos, in-laws play a pivotal part and they have always been demonized by the Bahus for obvious reasons. If a westernized lifestyle is your kink, so far, you were expected to be apologetic about it but not any longer. Sasural is no longer that hellhole that you always thought it to be, rather, you it has way liberal approach now towards accepting the new gen.

The video below is a rough sketch of what Indian marital houses look like now to the daughter-in-law. The in-laws here are no less than her own parents who treat her in the same manner as they would treat their own daughter. This video, however, compels us to think that are we, the Bahus, not way too critical about our parents-in-laws? that too driven by the stereotypical beliefs that they are Claudius or Lady Macbeth straight out of the pages of Shakespeare?

It could not get cooler to have a Sasumom like the one in the video. Firstly, she never barrages her daughter-in-law with life gyaans and gives her the breathing space. Secondly, when she changes the sofa with a new set, she doesn’t roll her eyes. Thirdly, she even passes slapstick jokes on seeing her hiding her beautiful dress behind a funny jacket. I mean, how cool is that?

The Bahu, obviously learns to take care of her new family because it comes easily to her. The chemistry between them is like water, beguiling and simple. So far, we have come to believe that taking care of your parents-in-laws bears no fruit because they will anyway be critical, but when parents-in-laws are the cool lots like this, life is a party!

Everyone deserves to live life in their own conditions. Respect and love is earned not thrusted. When it is trusted upon someone, it becomes duty. This video is a heart-warming ode to the new-age chemistry between the Bahu and her parents-in-law which is so fun to watch. Don’t believe us? well, see it for yourself and laugh a bit like we did.

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In-laws – Cost I paid for my success!

An open letter to the Indian society and it’s so called “norms” which aren’t normal

To all the Indian parents out there 

Can you please end the double standards set which are different for daughters and daughter in laws and then you say bahu kabhi beti nahi ban sakti. Can a saas become mother and stop differentiating.

My mother in-law is a good woman ( at least I thought so till I realized)  who loves me a lot, cooks for me, doesn’t allow me to do any house hold chores. On weekends asks me to take rest, go out and do what I love.

My first two years I fell more in love with my mother-in-law more than hubby as she loved me, so much and cared for me.

I was working in a big MNC and earned 2 lakhs per month she asked me to continue my job gave freedom had no problem with my over-time as well. I thought I am the luckiest women on planet earth. While everyone in my team used to complain about in-laws I always praised my in-laws.

Everything was perfect, perfect hubby, perfect in-laws, perfect job, I was enjoying honeymoon phase of my life.

Just then my younger sister gave birth to a baby girl and after spending time with her I just wanted to become mother and enjoy motherhood. I told my husband and he said “no this will affect your career” I said I am ok I worked for 8 years I earned enough now I want to be a complete women. To my surprise he said to his mom who brainwashed me and said beta you are doing good in career you are earning you should concentrate on your career not kids she asked me to wait for 1-2 years more. I thought she loves me after 5 years of marriage my sister-in-law gave birth to a baby boy and everyone was so happy for her. They loved this boy to the core but what stuck in my heart was when they love kids why they are not happy with me giving birth to baby.

I spoke to my mother-in-law that I have crossed age 33 and after 35 planning a baby can become difficult she said your career will get affected.

I said I don’t want to work and now want to have babies she said no you work we can adopt, I said why should I adopt when I am normal healthy and can bear my own child. She said because you earn good you don’t need to quit and sit at home. I spoke to my hubby he said same thing that you are not born for bringing up children you should work. I said I am not born to only work like a machine I kept quiet for 6 years but now I want to give birth. Discussions ended up in a brawl and then true colors of my hubby and sweet in-laws came out.

I was money earning machine for them they enjoyed all luxuries with my money all these years and I gave everything so stupidly with love to them.

They are ok with beti’s kids but not with bahu’s kids because” I am sonae kae Aande dene wali murgi for them” nothing more. ‘

My husband told me the only reason he married me because I am successful these words were enough to break me they used me all these years. I left my hubby and in-laws to face their own karma.

To the society

We give everything to your house but still daughters are your priority not daughter-in-laws why? 

By a frustrated

Daughter-in-law

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