We have all been there and done that. To some extent. We have let our ego come in the way of finding or retaining true love. While the concept of love is pretty clouded for most of us…
Is Ego So Important That You Can Let Go Of Love?
We have all been there and done that.
To some extent. We have let our ego come in the way of finding or retaining true love. While the concept of love is pretty clouded for most of us, it’s the issue of ego that has us holding our heads in our hands. At cost will you let go of your love? Is ego that important? Let’s find out…shall we?
A boy and girl are fighting over their differences. It could be about spending time, proper communication or even the need to be there for each other. One person hangs up abruptly, because he/she is royally pissed. The other person gets offended by the abrupt hanging up and doesn’t call back…bidding his/her time. Ideally, one of them should give up his/her ego and approach the other, right? But that’s what doesn’t happen. Both are waiting for the other to take the plunge because ‘ego’ has come in the way of their love, affection and relationship. Does it happen with you? Of course, it does. The more mature lots will bury the past, overlook such tiny hurdles and think about the big picture. But the petty ones will continue to brood and make a scene till one of the has had enough and comes crawling to the other person.
One of you is immersed in work/movies/personal stuff when the other person calls to have a casual conversation. You have two options, to pick up his/her call, find out what he/she wants and hang up quickly or simply disconnect, shoot them a text and call back when free. While both these options work well with understanding and loving couples, there are some who would take the second option and blow it out of proportion. You will suddenly be accused of favouring the TV, movies or personal work more than your partner.
Despite your loving and caring nature, you’ll be branded as a selfish fool. What would you do? Call them back and make them understand or let them simmer a bit and wait for them to come to their senses? Who should let go of their ego first and swallow their pride? Is your partner wrong in demanding you for time? Are you not right in stealing some ‘me’ time for yourself? Who decides who is right and who is not?
So he/she is not receiving your calls but they are available on Facebook, their ‘Last Seen’ on WhatsApp is a couple minutes before after your call, they have ‘received’ your ping on YoTurf and are busy updating their Instagram. Do you flip out and create a scene because he/she has chosen to ignore you? Or you simple overlook such social intrusions and continue to call him/her?
What if your partner genuinely missed your call and did not bother to check the logs as he/she was caught up? What if your ego came in the way and you stopped trying to reach your partner after a while? And he/she did not revert, because…well, he/she didn’t know that you had called. Would you give up on your ‘what’s going on’ phase and try reaching the person? Or shoot an angry text asking them to get back to you NOW? Ah, well.
These scenarios may seem silly to some, but most break-ups happen because couples indulge in these.
Because there is ego and pride. Because nobody wants to be projected as the weaker of the two.
As the emotionally dependent one. But isn’t being in love means not having ego?
Not playing trivial mind games?
Self respect is important, but ego is not.