First thing foremost, YOU don’t have to be a people-pleaser at all.
Well, it’s good that you want others to be happy & successful but putting them ahead each & every time is something that you must stop doing.
I completely understand you might feel that people should accept you everywhere & every-time & thus it is almost like a need for you but TRUST ME in the end it can only result into destroying yourself.
As I would suggest; it is best if you don’t get over-committed to please people all the time because keeping yourself happy matters a lot more than people-pleasing.
Well, the next morning you wake-up; just tell yourself that enough is enough and follow these simple tips to work on that promise.
- Learn to say NO
Learning to say NO is very important & people-pleaser must learn this first. Suppose if someone asks you to do their work & you are well-aware that you can’t do it then give a straight NO in the reply then & there itself.
- Don’t let others make decisions for you
If a person knows that you are a people-pleaser then some of ‘em very well know how to take an advantage. So, understand their language and be SMART by not letting them take decisions for you.
- Avoid putting other’s need in front of your own
First do what’s BEST for you & see towards it that you’re smartly fulfilling your needs first. To be frank, chances are thinking too much about others can land you into a big trouble & to avoid that better say NO by giving genuine reason to that person.
Do understand one thing- Not each & every person you work with will like you & that’s completely fine. Hence, don’t cross your limits by acting to help ‘em even though they’re insulting you every-time.
-It is absolutely OK for people to not like you.
- Stay away from the negative energy
Try as much as you can to stay away from the negative energy even if it makes you feel guilty at that moment.
- Keep a balance
If you can’t resist helping someone then don’t rush into keeping all your work aside. Well, in this situation act smartly & tell ‘em that “first you’ll complete your work & then if time remains you’ll help ‘em too”.
- Take some “Me Time”
It is very important for each & every person to enjoy his own space without letting anybody disturb ‘em. And thus, even you need to think about yourself first & make some “me time” for yourself after your work.
Any thoughts? Do comment below.