For a woman, it is of utmost importance to know, if she is giving her heart to the right person or not.
Whether the man she is getting into a relationship with, is a good man or not.
Dating and relationships are very sensitive subjects and if not dealt at the right time, with the right perspective, can bring a lot of destruction to our lives.
I think a big part of the problem is that many people aren’t even quite sure what a healthy relationship looks like these days or how a “good man” (or woman) should act towards their partner.
To help understand, we have put together this list of how a good man should act while in a relationship.
- A Good Man Will Never Shy Away From Expressing His Love
Having an unhealthy and loveless relationship is becoming the norm of the day. Women are often found complaining that the man in their lives does not make them feel loved and wanted. If you are with a good man, no matter how old or new your relationship is, he will never let go of a moment to tell you how much he loves you and will appreciate your presence in his life.
- A Good Man Will Always Make You Feel Like A Beautiful Treasure
If he is floored by your charming appearance and beautiful persona, a good man will not be hesitant to tell this to you. He will make you feel beautiful through his words and gestures. He would remind you of the days you wore a particular colour and looked stunning, he would surprise you with your favourite flowers. He would appreciate your beauty in many ways he finds, even when you are in your sweatpants.
- A Good Man Will Make You Feel Safe
I have always said that I believe one of the best compliments a woman can give her partner is telling him that she feels safe around him and with him. It’s not about a woman being a weaker sex and a man being stronger, it’s all about the security of one’s presence that matters. Regardless of how attracted she is to you or how funny she thinks you are or how much money you have, if a woman cannot sleep in peace by your side at night, none of it matters.
- A Good Man Will Have A Supporting Attitude In Your Endeavours
You want to have an ice-cream parlour, or you want to start a marketing business, or you want to go back to your education to pursue your masters degree! Be it anything that brings you satisfaction and a smile, a good man will always be supportive of your actions just because they bring you happiness. He will never discourage you or make you feel as though you can’t do what you set out to do. He will be beside you every step of the way, cheering on your victories and comforting you during your defeats.
- A Good Man Will Be An Inspirational Energy For You
It takes a lot to inspire someone. Partners in relationships are the closest to each other and they can inspire each other in various ways. It sure takes a lot of effort to inspire. But a good man will do that subtly through the way he lives his own life, his actions, and sometimes his conversations with you. A good man’s drive and ambition will rub off on you as he pursues his own passions.
- A Good Man Will Put Efforts To Retain Your Trust
A good man will want you to be comfortable and confident in your relationship. The very ground of comfort is being able to trust someone, and he will definitely realize that. Without trust, there is no foundation for love or respect. He will put deliberate efforts to keep your trust intact. He will understand that trust is not just handed over to someone, it has to be earned, and then it has to be kept.
- A Good Man Will Do Small Things To Enliven The Days
It’s your friend’s birthday and you don’t have time to buy flowers, and he goes out to do that for you? Did you mention an art exhibit coming to town and he made plans to take you to see it? Regardless of how small certain things seem, he will understand they are really the big things that matter most, and will do them without making any fuss about them.
- A Good Man Knows The Lines In And Out of Relationship
It is natural to have disagreements and even arguments in a relationship, but there is no reason to make things personal, become insulting and never, ever to become abusive. A good man will give priority to a woman’s respect and will never put it at stake.
- A Good Man Will Always Be Working On Self To Improve
Whether it be learning new things, developing a new skill set, reading a new book or watching a documentary, a good man who prides himself on continuous self improvement will always be intellectually challenging you and keeping your attention. He will be doing these things for himself, but the added benefit will be the positive impact it has on your relationship. You will be exploring new horizons of relationship with him.
- A Good Man Will Focus On Actions, Rather Than Words
Having the right man in your life will make you understand that people who make empty promises do not deserve your respect. People who keep their word, deserve your respect, and he will be one of them. He will know how deserving you are of each promise he made to you and will try to fulfil them, for a happy relationship.
- A Good Man Will Be An Open Book To You
It can be difficult for some people to express their emotions, fears and even innermost desires, but having the right person in our lives often helps to open those doors. A good man, while understanding of course that some things are to be kept private, will not hide things from you or bottle up his feelings, knowing that doing so will cause tensions and frustration and will harm the relationship. He will open up and share himself with you.
- A Good Man Will Keep The Honesty And Integrity On
When building a foundation for a happy, healthy relationship, a good man will always keep an honest foot forward. He will know that lies and deceits will kill the love and the bond that you share. Integrity strengthens love and security in a relationship.
- A Good Man Will Create A Comfort Zone For You To Be Honest With Him
Comfort in a relationship (the good kind, not the kind that makes you stop trying) comes from the ability to be open and honest with your partner, and the ability to do this comes from knowing that you will never be judged. A good man will encourage you to open up and share your feelings with him. There should never be any fear of him flying off the handle or overreacting if you share something with him. This means being able to be the most genuine, uncensored version of yourself around him. And he would love and respect that.
- A Good Man Will Never Be In Charge of You
Perhaps the most important point of all. Whether it be mentally, emotionally or physically, a good man will never even think about being in charge or superior of you. He will not let you feel that you are his property and you have to abide by what he says. He will let you have your freedom, within the respectable boundaries of a loving relationship and will nurture your personality.
- A Good Man Finds Verbal, Mental And Physical Abuse As Utter Sins
Abusing, hitting, and subjecting the woman to mental torture are the signs of a weak person. A good man will never take resort in them. In case of disagreements or extreme fights, he would choose to call it quits peacefully, rather than making it a filthy affair.
Any man can be by your side on the sunny days. The real test of character is whether or not he will hold the umbrella over you during the stormy days.
Remember, if the person you are with puts in the effort to be this person for you, please let him know how much you appreciate him and love him. It is for you to make him feel special too.
There is no emptier feeling than being with a wrong person in a relationship. Identify it, and cure it at the earliest.