A girl’s ‘no’ is never an accepted phenomenon in our country. ‘Haseena maan jayegi’ is usually the idea that brews on the guy’s mentality.

Liking a girl is not really the main issue here but pursuing her despite her rejection turns out to be ugly. Guys think that if they constantly keep trying then the ‘no’ would turn into ‘yes’.

‘Ladki patana’ is like a subject that men take pride in mastering. Well there are times where such constant measures of hitting on a girl can lead to really grave consequences and traumatic experiences for the girls.

Persuading a girl in the neighborhood:

Our society tends to judge a girl before the guy. When a girl is raped it is usually concluded that she asked for it. Similarly when a guy is hitting on a girl, people in the society easily tend to mark her character and might even go to an extent of tagging her with horrific names (wh*re, sl*t, etc.)

Constantly when a guy follows a girl in the neighborhood; firstly he is invading her privacy and secondly people tend to judge the girl. Moreover when the girl doesn’t pay heed to the boy, people pity the boy’s plight and conclude her of having an attitude problem.

Hitting on a girl at work:

This is the worst situation for any woman. Already working women face the challenge of proving their skills at work. Our society has still not accepted the concept of women working and earning for themselves. Firstly it is the society that they need to fight and then to be in the man’s world is really not easy. If you tend to succeed instantly and by coincidence if your boss also happens to be a man then you are easily rumored to be sleeping or physically satisfying your boss to reach your career heights.

In such an environment if a guy (boss/ colleague) keeps pursuing the girl then it becomes a mental torture. Office affairs are not unknown but when the woman says no and the guy still pursues then it gets murky.

Hitting your sister-in-law:

This is again a common case and is probably the worst scenario for any woman. If the perpetrator is outside he can still be tackled but if the predator is within the family then the woman becomes extremely helpless.

Especially when the person in question is the husband’s brother, which would mean the strong bond between the two brothers. No woman would want to be the reason for any fight between two brothers. Mostly our society is structured in a way that even after marriage the wife still continues to face hardships gaining acceptance at her in-laws. If such kind of an incident takes place then it becomes extremely difficult for the woman. She can’t reveal to her husband about his brother.

In the name of protection the brother-in-law would have his vested interest and try to accompany the girl places where her husband might not be able to make it. She can’t deny, can’t go with him, can’t tell her husband about it, etc. the dilemma that a girl goes through in such a situation is really pathetic.

When the guy friend never understands that he can never be the boyfriend:

This gets really irritating. It is a very common Indian mind-set that a girl and a guy can’t be friends. Just because a girl is sharing her deepest secrets and may be even being physically comfortable with a guy friend doesn’t mean she sees him like a boyfriend. Some guys don’t understand this. They might have spent really good time but if the girl finds her man then this reality isn’t very well accepted by the friend.

He would secretly hope for them to break-up or would go to any extent to do that.

Below is a song from the movie ‘Mere yaar ki shaadi hai’ where the bachelor party turns into a nightmare for the couple.

When a young boy keeps going behind a woman:

Juveniles are no exception to eve-teasing. When matured men don’t understand a girl’s denial then what can we even expect from young boys in their teens? Moreover our films also have had such bad impacts that men are born with the intention of pursuing till the girl gives in.

For example check out this song ‘Lakh Lakh’ from the movie ‘Kambakkht Ishq’. Akshay Kumar literally harasses Kareena Kapoor in public but hey he is the hero!!

Such depictions in popular media have built the stereotype and even kids grow up thinking it is cool to harass women.

At such young age they tend to believe whatever they see. It is very important that the society learns to respect women and the space.

Nobody in this world has the right to invade that space. Liking a person is a very beautiful feeling indeed but men should also need to be mature enough to handle rejection. A woman should never pay the price for a feeling the guy develops.

The main problem is some men can’t handle rejection.

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Every other day we hear an instance where youngsters of the nation are unnecessarily harassed by police constables, detained in police custody and beaten, without even knowing the actual fault of theirs.

The recent raids in Mumbai motels and lodges are a clear specimen of that. 40 young couples were detained, questioned, fined and humiliated for having done nothing.

In another instance, 2 women from Delhi who were vacationing in Goa were gang raped by men pretending to be cops. What’s more scary is the fact that this could have been avoided if they had refused to go with the men when asked to. They did that, just because they got scared of their police stature. And that’s how things actually run in India. You are just sitting by the beach, sipping calmly on nariyal pani and a cop comes to you and asks you to come to police station with him. You simply cannot say no, and you won’t do it either. We are too scared of policewalas instead of feeling secure in their presence.

Simply because most of us are not aware of our legal rights when it comes to dealing with legal authorities.

Here’s a quick rundown for you so that you are well equipped to deal with such a messy situation, without getting scared and losing your cool, if policewala messes with you.

1. A police wala just cannot beat you up for the heck of it! No matter they are named as Police Beat Officers, but that doesn’t mean they can lose their laathis on you for no reason. They have to have a charge on you or a written FIR to take a beating action. If you face such situation, resist the beating by being polite but firm and straight forward.

2. Even a miniscule police constable tries to push his authority on people these days. Let him do that. Stay calm and do not react. If you start shouting and reacting too strongly, they menace even further. Calmly tell them that you belong to a respected family and you mean no harm to the society by and large.

3. Remember, that a police wala is neither a good friend, nor a good enemy! You must avoid getting dragged to a station at all costs. If you get registered at a police station with your name and identity, it will remain for lifelong. Moreover, our police stations are not really pleasant places to be at for anybody not belonging to a criminal background. As sad it may sound, but it’s true to the core. Hence, avoid being taken there. You really do not have to go only because a cop is asking you. Ask for a warrant, a copy of the FIR or written summons to hold you up.

4. A girl cannot be arrested by anyone, anytime or anywhere. A male cop cannot come to a woman’s door or stop her by a roadside and ask her to come to a station. As per the rule, a woman constable or official must be present while detaining a female. Moreover, a female can never be taken to a station under any charge after 6 p.m. It is mandatory to do the needful before 6 p.m. if it is a woman in question.

5. If at all you are taken to a station you need to know your rights on Inspection Memo and Memo of Arrest.

Inspection Memo is the documentation which describes how exactly you looked like before being detained, what were you wearing. If you have any bruises on your body after the encounter at the station,  you can file a written complaint against the officials at the assigned court.

A Memo of Arrest is the documented record which talks about each every detail of arrest. The name, the charges, the place of arrest, the time of arrest, reasons, and the mode of arrest with the signatures form a witness. This makes sure that they cannot screw up your case later.

6. If your crime is one where you need to pay a fine, ask the cops to make a challan or a written memo of the exact amount and pay the legit amount, which as per the IPC slabs is very nominal. Appear confident and never handover a huge amount of cash or your debit cards with the pin to Inspectors or SHOs.

7. Last but not the least, in any such situation, first thing to do is to call your parents or legal guardians, and make them aware of the situation all by yourself, rather than police walas or other officials giving them a twisted version. Remember, your parents are your best friends. They might take you off hand later, but they will definitely try their best to save you from the situation.

So friends, make sure you are aware of the legal rights you possess, before you react and blow a situation out of proportion. This will help you to remain out of trouble with the police officials.

We may or may not find friends in our Police Force today!

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