Time for women to celebrate as the Female Viagra hits the med-stands!

No more run-down libido and lame tries to pep up the bedroom scene, right?

Well, given the stress levels, challenges of everyday life and declining years, women tend to lose on the libido! Being in a relationship, and suffering from a low sex drive can bring added stress to women and their partners too. But, given the potential side effects that are holding up the pill from getting a global approval and a green signal from FDA, we need to work on the alternatives for it.

Here are 10 true to their ingenuity, completely natural and workable solutions for you, if you want to stay away from Female Viagra to increase sex drive and rock your bedroom scene!

1. Spice Up Your Dinner Menu

Foods and wines of typical ingredients exude smells like human pheromones, which are known to excite sexual instincts. Champagnes, Red Wines and chocolate truffles are some of such potent foods. Add them to your dinner menus and pump up the fire. Other foods known to arouse women are licorice, cucumber, strawberries and dark chocolates. And then comes the coffee, which a world-wide proven aphrodisiac. The mood lifter with the zing of caffeine can be just what you need to inspire a move from the table to the bed.

2. Induldge in Yogic Meditation

While exercise in general can boost your sex drive by increasing blood flow, yogic techniques are thought to have similar physical benefits, with the added bonus of helping you get in touch with your sexuality. It can also boost your libido by increasing blood flow to your lady parts, so bust out your yoga mat and get to stretching for those rocking night hours later.

3. Declare A Weeklong Sex Ban (Yes, It Works Magic)

Many girls often feel pressure to perform in the bedroom even after a long day at work or with the family and kids around to take care of. This damages the sex drive dramatically, as it stops you being present emotionally. Therefore, without  thinking of sex or intercourse per se, indulge in some pure connection building exercises like, sitting close, talking, holding hands, touching each other sensually without the expectation of arousal or orgasms. This will work wonders.. We often become so orgasm-focused, we forget the pleasure of a loved one’s touch. Make yourself and your partner feel loved.

4. Switch To Ginseng

This herb, found in Asia and North America, is often used as an aphrodisiac, and is thought to improve libido by helping the body create more nitric oxide — the same thing Viagra does. So why not opt for this one and let it work the natural way. Plus, ginseng does wonders to your beauty and health too, working to the core of your immune system. Replace your beers and caffeine shots with a cup of stimulating Ginseng tea.

5. Black Cohosh Miracle

Traditionally used to treat symptoms of menopause such as vaginal dryness and hot flashes, this flowering plant (native to eastern North America) also has estrogen-like properties that can increase blood flow to the pelvis, which can result in increased arousal and response to sexual stimulation. Soak in water and drink every morning.

6. Bring Up The Mood By Reading A Racy Novel

Erotic literature, is a really safe place to experiment. A lot of women get anxious about making love because they don’t know what they like. You need to explore your sensuality in the most subtle form. Unlike erotic images on screen, the written word is more delicate and allows us to use our imagination. Stock up a few racy books and read them before you start to anticipate for that steamy night with your partner.

7. Sex-Ercise Yourself Up

If you understand and work on your pelvic floor muscles, not only will your posture improve, but your sex life will go blazing through the roof. Strengthening these core muscles that span the pelvis can spice up sex for all women. It improves your confidence in the bedroom and can increase sensation. One simple yet pwer loaded move to sexercise is doing a parallel squat with a netball or equivalent weight between the legs. The tension that is built from the thighs to the pelvic floor boosts your clout and libido thereof.

8. Invest In Sexy Lingerie

You need to get rid of your boring innerwear stuff and get busy buying some beautiful luxury lingerie. This can instantly make you feel more powerful and sexy. Try some lacy stockings, a perfect bra in your fave colour teamed with a cheeky pair of netty bedroom knickers. It gives your confidence a boost. There’s something to make you feel sexy whatever your shape is.

9. Fix The Location, Yes Please!

In a relationship that is going on for what seems like ages, confining your lovemaking to the bedroom can get boring and hence the loss of desire. Why not enjoy other rooms? You don’t have to race upstairs if the mood hits you. Just try the lawns, kitchen, dining tables or even the car for that matter! Try out lifting the mood with exotic aroma candles or sexy dim lights. Build the location to build the mood

And finally…

10. Make Time For Each Other

If sex seems no longer on your agenda, sit and take time to go over the issue. Ponder, whether there are any difficulties in your relationship. Often, lack of intimacy happens for spending so little time together due to work or other time and space issues. So schedule time for each other. If you are in a long distance, organise to meet often. If you are a married couple, take a day off from your monotonous schedules and choose to apply the techniques given above!

But most of all, just get on with it. Once you start working on your failings sincerely, you may be surprised by how much you still enjoy sex.

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When you’re 80 years old and facing the end of your long life, a life, hopefully well-lived, what can be the biggest factor that would decide whether you had a flourishing life or not?

Is it money?

Is it a good body?

Is it your corporate status?

Is it a big house?

Not really, right?

The probability of a happy life can be boiled down to this: the quality of your relationships!

With so much at stake regarding relationships, it’s worth considering a few common ways we ourselves hijack the very thing we need the most.  This is more important for people who identify themselves as relationship failures, but fail to identify the reasons. Be it the relationship with a spouse, a lover, with friends, with coworkers or with their domestic help for that matter! When you start to fail as a person involved in those associations, you need to know and acknowledge the reasons those are working behind it.

Here are the major factors that work behind the scenes and push us towards disaster while we are in different relationships. They all lie with us only. No outer force is working to bring failure to us. And the bright side is, we can work on them and correct them, if at all we need to flip the sides.

You Think Your Happiness Is Dependent on Someone Else (Wrong Expectations)

We often think that if we can change another person’s response to us or how they relate to us, then we will be happier or more fulfilled. We say, “If you will change your behaviour or condition, then as I observe it, I will feel better.” In other words, we give others the responsibility for how we feel. You are only responsible for you. The road to better relationships always starts with you. Rather than attempt to control another person, work on becoming a better version of yourself. Healthier relationships will then come to you as a result.  You either don’t know or don’t accept who you really are and look for external validation.

When We Are Unhappy With Ourselves, We Look To Others To Fill In The Gaps Of Insecurities (Low Self Esteem)

When I was 20, I craved people telling me how smart I was. I needed people to respect me and find me interesting. Popularity was a measure of worth, even if fabricated, that I could use to validate what I needed to believe about myself. With a very shaky sense of who I really was, I would grab on to any low-hanging fruit that would give me a semblance of an identity. For a 20-year-old launching out of adolescence, this is completely normal. But unfortunately, some of us never outgrow this need for validation. We spend decades looking for others to tell us who we are or what we’re good at. We did it at 13. We still do it at 30 and continue the same at 40. With social media norms flooding our senses, VALIDATION is the call of the day!

Instead of spending time figuring out who we are, our preferences, interests and hard-wired personality, we mould ourselves into a distorted version of who we truly are. We change ourselves because we think that our chances for love and acceptance will be greater, if we become what people want us to become.

We Judge: Ourselves and Others  (Conflicts of Personalities)

Be you. Be powerful and opinionated about the ideas you’re passionate about. Be vulnerable with people you trust. Express emotions. Be lighthearted and naive, ask questions about topics you don’t understand. And don’t apologize for your values. They are your guides.

But, don’t judge self and others!

You judge yourself, which leads to hyper-judgment toward others. What you judge most harshly in others is what you judge most harshly in yourself.

Who do you criticize? Your husband? Boss? Mother?

What behaviour do you criticise them for or what you judge in others? Vanity? Short-sightedness? Lack of self-respect?

How you answer these questions reveals a lot about how you regard yourself. It’s important to know that criticism and judgment come from the same source: shame.

Shame turned inward is self-criticism; turned outward it sits as a self-righteous judge of others. Judging others puts you in a one-up position with the illusory promise of power.

We say, “Look at what an impatient mother you are as you yell at your kids,” when we’re really saying to ourselves, “I find my own impatience intolerable. I’m such a terrible mother if I feel or act that way.” Judgment keeps us in a place of disconnection. We cannot be authentically connected to others when we hold them at arm’s length with our daggers of judgment.

Do you get the point here?

You Allow Others To Treat You With Disrespect (Lack of Self-respect) 

One of my favourite sayings is, “We teach others how to treat us.”

You are in control of how others treat you. You decide what you will and won’t allow into your life. You are not a victim, but a co-creator with others in how your story plays out. When you allow others to abuse, demean or disrespect you, you become partners with them in your own destruction.

And the best antidote to dealing with disrespect is to create and maintain boundaries. Boundaries serve as the force field of self-respect that buffers you from the people that don’t have your best interests in mind. Boundaries nudge you toward walking away when someone’s being an ass. They embolden you to firmly stand up for your values. They protect you when your personal worth is being challenged.

Want a path to a life well-lived? Take time to nurture and savour your closest relationships. The relationships that make you a better version of yourself each day.

Famously said by a pioneer in positive psychology, “Happiness is love and respect. Full stop.” 

Give and receive! 

And that’s what it is!

Happy relationships to you!

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