The frailty of Indian society is we keep other’s women at the edge of testosterone but keep ours in stifling security. The placebo effect of Indian stigmatism rips the women of their independence. Albeit, this is hypocritical outlined by a bunch of senile minds, whether or not to let our women rise above mediocrity, what if they leave us behind? How are we supposed to face our mighty male ego then? So you see, when things get fuzzy, bind them in boundaries, set rules to adhere to and that’s that.

But we can’t complain, since there is a spike in hate crimes against women and we don’t quite stand up always for ourselves.

So, no matter if you are educated or earning quite a fortune, your boundaries never diminish. Here are the things every Indian woman needs permission for even if she is apparently independent.

Going on a solo trip:

You are raised to believe that, honeymoon with your husband will be your first adventure trip WITHOUT parents. So, solo trip is a distant dream for you. As a spinster, you always shy away from asking permission even for a group excursion.

Dressing:

If you have been, then don’t perpetuate your dream for wearing a miniskirt because asking  permission for wearing tight clothes was too much to ask already.

Cutting their hair:

We spend our lives combing through the pages of Vogue and Femina where women in bobbed hair rule the roost. But to what avail? We will only leave people fuming by cutting those long tresses off.

Bringing Boyfriends home:

Well, same sex marriage is looked down upon by them, homosexuality makes them cringe, and marrying a person we have never known is their idea of conjugal perfection. Turns out, we will only marry a guy but make friends with girls, of course without getting into homosexual relationship with them. Now that’s pretty confusing!

Coming home late:

Women who come home late, no matter even due to the work timings, are always in crosshairs. You will attract a lot of side-eyes if you are a late comer and getting permission for it is only poking a volcano!

Leaving the Sasural to visit Maaika:

It is an imperative for the married woman, even if she is financially independent, to ask her mother-in-law’s permission to even visit her parent’s place. Now what does that make her look like? A slave bought from Ivory Islands? Think!

Wearing western wear in Indian occasions:

It’s almost criminal not being able to pull off a saree with precision. So, if you are meaning to give saree a ditch and choose a western outfit over the next family gathering, forget it!

Learning to drive:

You can learn to drive, get a car of your own only if you promise that it will be an occasional venture. I mean, what use your elder brother’s driving skills if he can’t drive you to office?

Pyjama Party:

You have to prove your innocence a thousand times over that you didn’t do anything outrageous other than studying after coming back from a pyjama party.

Getting a tattoo:

Forget it! Not even a temporary one.

Relatable much, eh?

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After Khap Panchayat’s comment on ‘eating chowmein can cause rapes’, Bihar Panchayat ‘banning cell phones for girls’ and Akhil Bharti Hindu Mahasabha prohibiting wearing short skirts, dresses and tight clothes for women, we now have a meme titled ‘A Bad Girl’ getting popular on Facebook, Twitter and Reddit.

This meme looks like a chart or a poster from young children’s study books and mentions 12 characteristics that define a ‘typical Indian bad girl’. And yes, you will be shocked to know them!

Look at the picture below that ridicules the supposedly ‘bad’, nefarious qualities in an Indian girl. Looking at this meme, it seems all modern girls are ‘bad’, rather all girls are ‘bad’. The picture purports that being a girl is bad because according to the picture, if you have breasts, you are bad. There are some other characteristics that define such women according to the meme that though appears as a spoof but supports a probable chance of being propagated by people believing in such hypocritic blather. Making a pout in front of what seems a camera mobile phone in the picture, inability to make round rotis, roaming around in open hair, eating more or eating less, all is categorized under this picture as the attributes of ‘a bad girl’ or ‘ek buri ladki’.

Bad Girl Meme

This comes after St. Stephens college, Delhi University made a move to offer a course to make Delhiites better citizens of the country! What an irony!

India is already a witness to massive gender discrimination and here comes more spice to add to the mixture. Though the source for this meme is not known till now, however it seems that the picture/chart is part of children books and is prescribed by the present education system.

The patriarchal society has already dictated rules and terms for female behaviour and attributed a certain kind of behaviour to being ‘bad’, ‘spoilt’ or even ‘characterless’. This meme is another proof of the male hegemony or rather a corrupt mind-set that cannot see women being at par with men.

The characteristics in the meme that is probably being meted out to children as part of the education system may put to shame the idea of feminism itself, let alone the people who have raised liberal movements and the like. The picture identifies ‘a bad girl’ to any activity from watching porn to visiting Goa to ‘letching’ at guys, (which can’t be even possible as there is no such word in the dictionary) to even smoking and drinking and wait, even falling in love in the park-how would anyone come to know if a girl is falling in love in the park or has fallen in love in the park? Or would a girl and a boy meeting in park be termed as falling in love in a park?

It couldn’t have got any more ridiculous than this!

The tweets are surely amazing where some have said that ‘all girls are good….until they are caught’ and ‘Good girls make round rotis.’ Bad girls make botis of those who don’t make round rotis.’ One has even gone to claim that most Indian boys are good girls as they don’t have breasts and can’t make round rotis.

If this is what the education ministry is dishing out, what more can we expect from the citizens of the country, the law and order system and at the end of it, the political leaders when it comes to rapes and women-related crimes!

What a shame!

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